Personal growth - Page 3
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

General Relationship Discussion Although anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 12-06-2011, 09:45 PM   #31 (permalink)
Member
 
Blanca's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Posts: 4,042
Default Re: Personal growth

Quote:
Originally Posted by RDJ View Post
I truly believe that life reflects back to us what our internal identity is. If we are having problems with some area of life it is because we have fears and insecurities in that area of our own identity. If we have problems with sex it is because we have insecurities about sex. Life does not create obstacles for us. We create fears and insecurities for ourselves and then life reflects them to us through external events.
In a nutshell, this philosophy is why i stayed in my marriage. Even though I hated my H and blamed him for everything, deep down I knew there must be a lot wrong with me to create such an environment.

But there is a fine line when one considers how to manage the dysfunction, even if it really is just a reflection of our inner state of being. Walking away isnt always the answer, but sometimes it is, particularly in abusive situations. Even if one walks away there still has to be change and personal accountability for the dysfunction. If you leave it doesnt have to mean you think your spouse is the problem; but maybe you cannot handle the problem while your spouse is there. Then again, there are some problems that can only be solved in the context of a relationship and walking away masks the problem. It's really difficult to draw that line. It's really a question of if that change can happen while you are with the person or if that change has to happen on your own. That is such a difficult question to answer. I found that deciding how to fix the problem to be the most difficult problem to conquer.
__________________
"I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality."
- Bryon Katie
Blanca is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 12-07-2011, 10:26 AM   #32 (permalink)
RDJ
Member
 
RDJ's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Denver
Posts: 384
Default Re: Personal growth

Quote:
Originally Posted by Blanca View Post
I found that deciding how to fix the problem to be the most difficult problem to conquer.

Blanca,

I understand what you mean, thats when I go here.

Let Go and Let God (you know me, it's long)

Thanks for your comments.
__________________
“Conflict is inevitable, combat is optional.”
Warmly,
RDJ
RDJ is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.
User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Attraction or growth NaturalHeart General Relationship Discussion 3 07-26-2012 04:29 PM
Married 28 Plus but far apart and no growth 2betex Considering Divorce or Separation 9 06-09-2012 10:47 AM
Considering marriage as a tool for educational/career growth - thoughts? captn General Relationship Discussion 5 05-06-2012 08:50 AM
Spiritual growth and marriage conflict pa321 Relationships and Spirituality 2 05-03-2012 05:40 PM

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads


Sponsor Ads




Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 09:26 AM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2 ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.