So, I have another post about getting ready to divorce, but I really have a lot of questions that are bugging me about my whole relationship. I really want to know if I messed up, or how bad. If nothing else, to possibly help in future relationships.
Beginning early in our marriage, my wife would complain that I didn't spend enough time at home. I had some hobbies that I did spend an average of about 20 hours a week at. Usually 3 nights a week, couple hours a night, and every other Saturday for about 6 months out of the year. Other than this, I was at home. During the biggest part of this time, she was not working, and had no hobbies of her own. I tried to get her to find a hobby, the only one she found was online gaming (think candy crush). I also tried to get her interested in my hobby, while we were dating, she expressed interest in the same hobby. But after we got married, she wanted no part of it. She claims this is why she cheated (ok, but pretty much the ENTIRE MARRIAGE?)
She also claimed that I wasn't affectionate enough after we were married, which is probably true. I am not, nor every been a fan of PDA. I guess I just feel that these should be reserved for the bedroom. Not that I didn't hold hands, or kiss her in public, I felt extremely uneasy with making out in public. I would always give her more of a peck on the cheek. I really didn't dance when we went out. One of the last things, she has been saying I didn't do the things I did to get her. Like rubbing her feet, she says I used to rub her feet all the time when we dated. I really didn't, maybe once every couple months. Not sure where that is coming from.
I always made sure the home was taken care of, I would try to make a little extra money to ensure we could make it through a rough patch. I cleaned, and cooked, washed my own clothes. The only thing she had to do was wash her own clothes, and pay the bills. I did everything else, and began feeling resentful about it. When I would bring it up, she might load the dishwasher once, and then swear at me when I didn't unload it.
I feel that I am a good catch. I am honest, faithful, and hardworking. Yeah, I probably have a problem with affection. Please pick my story to find out what other problems I have! Be hard on me please, I feel I need it...
Beginning early in our marriage, my wife would complain that I didn't spend enough time at home. I had some hobbies that I did spend an average of about 20 hours a week at. Usually 3 nights a week, couple hours a night, and every other Saturday for about 6 months out of the year. Other than this, I was at home. During the biggest part of this time, she was not working, and had no hobbies of her own. I tried to get her to find a hobby, the only one she found was online gaming (think candy crush). I also tried to get her interested in my hobby, while we were dating, she expressed interest in the same hobby. But after we got married, she wanted no part of it. She claims this is why she cheated (ok, but pretty much the ENTIRE MARRIAGE?)
She also claimed that I wasn't affectionate enough after we were married, which is probably true. I am not, nor every been a fan of PDA. I guess I just feel that these should be reserved for the bedroom. Not that I didn't hold hands, or kiss her in public, I felt extremely uneasy with making out in public. I would always give her more of a peck on the cheek. I really didn't dance when we went out. One of the last things, she has been saying I didn't do the things I did to get her. Like rubbing her feet, she says I used to rub her feet all the time when we dated. I really didn't, maybe once every couple months. Not sure where that is coming from.
I always made sure the home was taken care of, I would try to make a little extra money to ensure we could make it through a rough patch. I cleaned, and cooked, washed my own clothes. The only thing she had to do was wash her own clothes, and pay the bills. I did everything else, and began feeling resentful about it. When I would bring it up, she might load the dishwasher once, and then swear at me when I didn't unload it.
I feel that I am a good catch. I am honest, faithful, and hardworking. Yeah, I probably have a problem with affection. Please pick my story to find out what other problems I have! Be hard on me please, I feel I need it...