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Golden Corral First Date

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#1 ·
So here is the situation.....a guy asks you to dinner, you agree and you tell him to pick the place and you tell him you can be there at ____ time. He texts you with the address for Golden Corral. After laughing hysterically and standing there is total bewilderment, what do you do? Go ahead with plans? What kind of a guy chooses Golden Corral for a first date?
 
#16 ·
Not real sure how old he is. I would say around my age. I am in my 50's. Can't recall the last time I ate at Golden Corral. I think the only reason we we was becasue we had 5 kids at home and they had discount rates for children. Boy, that takes me back a few years!!
 
#12 ·
LOL...I can't help it - I love buffets even though the food usually sucks out loud.

Hubby and I (at my suggestion) spent our first Thanksgiving together at the truck stop buffet because our family was all going away that year and we really didn't have anywhere to go.

We put on our work boots and flannel shirts and headed out 20 miles to the state border where the TA is (Truckstops of America) and had the buffet for dinner.

It's STILL one of my favorite Thanksgiving memories. :grin2:
 
#14 ·
Something like this would not bother me ...... I can think of far more things that would cross a man out over this.. .. I am not a higher class woman who needs whined & dined at a fancy steakhouse or whatever.. sure it would be nice.. but It wouldn't stop me from wanting to meet someone -if it seemed we had enough in common.... I'd give him the time.. and we'd get to know each other..

I feel like @She'sStillGotIt - I really enjoy buffets.. the kids love them too.. but true.. the food isn't always the best, but there is enough variety with some really good dishes to make up for it... we are bummed that one of our family favorites closed this past year.. lots of memories there..
 
#22 ·
And I don't like buffets. It's not about the food, I get that but I think it says something about this guy. If he is a buffet type, he's not my type of guy. He's already told me he is trying to lose weight and eat healthier and then invites me to a buffet....hum? Maybe he was hoping I would cancel, lol!!!! Something is off here....we were supposed to go out tomorrow night then he text me to tell me that Sunday would be better for him because he has something on his calendar he forgot about and then he asked about tonight. I do not get an all-over good feeling about any of this.
 
#100 ·
As a man who has been reasonably poor (certainly by US standards), there are several things wrong with the suggestion:

- It has a reputation for being cheap and nasty.
This is the one you leapt for. However, it would be a terrible test, as there are many other things wrong with it.

- It is not personal, it is good to take her to a place that either one of them particularly wants to see. If there is a story about what this Golden Corral means to him, then he should have shared the sweet story.

- It is a meal on a first date. Too much too soon. You should always give the lady a chance to escape easily, meet for coffee then go to the next place. And it is cheaper.

- It is not intimate. If she has a dog, walking the dog together is a great first date. Walking anywhere is pretty good, being side by side allows you to be closer than if you are facing. And it is cheaper.

- It suggests that he cannot cook. Cooking is a fairly basic life skill and if he cannot cook for himself, it is something he has to make up for.
 
#33 ·
SA I get what you're saying. If he's a good guy then not a dealbreaker. I haven't been in the dating scene for years so what do I know?

I was just thinking about the first date with my wife. We went to a movie house that served pizza and beer at your table, but hey I was 19 and it was walking distance from the campus. If I were to ask a first date today, I have no clue what I'd do so I guess I don't have anything to add LOL.

~MS

Edited to add: Drinking age was 18 in those days.
Our 1st date was eating meatballs at his house.. we were very young too.. I've never drank.. so drinks have no appeal to me... I've been on another thread here that went on & on & on about if a man used a dang coupon on a 1st date.. personally my own husband wouldn't do that (I asked him) but still this would not be something where I felt .. he's a loser.. he's an idiot.. I would see it as a "conversation piece" about money... I don't see that as such a bad thing on a date...

Lately I am beginning to feel I just don't belong on this forum.. it seems everyone is high class... can't relate to most people here.. I'd rather go to a nice Chinese buffet... This probably sounds pathetic too...only a loser would suggest that..

Actually I feel a decent man who really LIKED A WOMAN, wanted to impress...he should ask HER where she wants to go....this has always been what my husband has done.. but Me.. I rarely suggest something expensive.. but now & then we do splurge.. yes.

I was out today...Golden Corral came up in a conversation by another couple...how they go there...I didn't know they had one in that town...here I was just telling them.. "OH we need to go there!".. ironic..

I must be hugely deprived or something.. I am very happy to go to these dives ....We go to Red Lobster once or twice a year at the most.. that's my favorite.. I wait till we have coupons.. for us.. that is luxury eating out.. but we do have a pretty large family...I don't think we've ever taken them all with us (yet).
 
#29 ·
@AVR1962, my baby sister is single. She has dating 'rules', 2 of which come to mind reading your op.

Her first one is never, ever agree to a sit down meal for a first date. Steer towards coffee or after work drink, 30 minute max at which point you can make a quick exit if it's not looking too good.

Her second is your first couple of dates set the precedent for the relationship. Do not agree to something that you wouldn't accept under 'normal' circumstances. Don't force compatibility.

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#37 ·
Date must be a Golden Ager.

The coffee is good there!

He picked this place because that is his style and his comfort zone.

I agree it is a little....understated.....and tacky for many of the high class snobs here at TAM.

I guess I am one of them.

This would not be a deal breaker [date breaker] for me, but I would not give him two bites at the apple.

He sounds modest, unassuming, oblivious to protocol. He sounds harmless.

Where you live, that might be your road to recovery. Have fun, have an extra order of that pudding.
 
#64 ·
Question. If a guy does this, is there a risk that he would be seen as indecisive and beta? Not the take charge type? Just throwing it out there.

My wife asked ME out first and she already had a plan!

~MS
Well.. ya know what.. my husband is what I call "tipped BETA".. and I love him the way he is.. (he could push the bar in the bedroom some.. this really is my only complaint)... I don't see BETA as pizz poor as many others do... being newer here ....you've probably never came across this old thread of mine...where I explored the various definitions on it...

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/genera...ns-beta-male-good-all-p-whipped-pathetic.html

I am actually the more dominant/ assertive partner between us (isn't it true, opposites attract)... . though when Guy meets girl... I believe the man should make the 1st move to pursue, to show his interest and intent... I am "old fashioned" like that.. that's what I wanted.. . ...I am happy to say.. he came after me.. asking me to be his girl very quickly - (within a week of us meeting even), take into account he was on the shy side, gave up on girls-was dumped twice before me...figured I would shoot him down... but still he put himself out there.. that's assertive enough.. he wanted me ! Then he cared to please me.. what else does a girl need.
 
#39 ·
SA, your insecurities are showing and it doesn't become you. You are too good of a person to be daunted by bucks.

All we are saying, is that Golden Corral is inappropriate for a first date because it doesn't lend itself to learning about a person. A place with a more quiet atmosphere would help in that regard. Also, there's less chance of Montezuma's Revenge visiting at a later hour which would surely sour that experience in AVR's eyes.
 
#41 ·
The jokes being made about it.. I guess it just rubs me the wrong way.. and yes.. many would think that is a dive restaurant... Yes to each their own.. We don't eat out much.. so to us.. all of them is something we'd enjoy..

Last year, I think it was.. I asked 4th son what he wanted to do on his birthday.. his answer: Go to the Golden Corral..
 
#60 ·
Please google images for Golden Corral memes...

Buffets are not necessarily evil. We love Sunday buffets offered by established non chain restaurants... Best way to try lots of things. But not GC type places...

There's a Chinese place here where the Sunday only buffet is frequented by nearly all Asian customers. The food is the real thing, and is exceptionally good.

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