It seems that a number of women believe that a marriage won't work unless the man is making at least 2/3 of what the women earns.
I feel sad for people who have such limited belief systems. Money is really a fairly shallow topic, and in my experience, the couples I've met for whom shared money visions are major to them - well, they have no really deep shared visions..it's just money, which is either simple materialism or a scorecard. I have only my experiences to go on, of course.
I've never dated or married a woman who cared what I earn, nor have I cared what they earn, or if they worked at all. You can make a happy life in the US at any income.
I have no problem with women making more or less than their husbands.
I have no problem with women being attracted to whomever they please for whatever reason they please.
The question is, doesn't that restrict quite a bit the pool of men from whom a high earning woman could chose?
Wait, you started with "high achieving" and now it's "high earning"? Not the same thing. Some of the wealthiest folks I know are social boob hermits, no friends, miserable and lonely. Scared of what others think of them. It's not hard to make money. It's hard to be a fully functioning part of social life.
Every school of thought I've explored, whether atheist, business school, eastern belief, whatever diminishes the value of money. Yes, even accounting classes, teach something called "the balanced scorecard", in which a company is supposed to create five major objectives, none of which have to do with money. In theory, if a company keeps its focus on those objectives - as long as the objectives have to do with thrilling customers, improving the economy or environment, then money will simply flow.
High achievement is measured in contributions to others - not money in the bank.
At least, that's what I've been taught in every human-created school to which I've been exposed...
What if most high earning men aren't looking for high earning women?
Who (if anyone) would de-prioritize their career to focus on the kids?
Or their love of each other? Or their building of the community? Or their connection with neighbors?
There is a time and place for career obsession: at the start of it. Maybe first 10-15 years. That's all it takes to get it going at a comfy pace. That plus keeping spending reasonable and in the US, things just go well.
As with anything else, a relationship does not require two people to have the same interests. He likes burgers, she likes Asian food, so they trade off which they have. He likes watching sports, she prefers reading books. And so on. It's entirely reasonable that someone is passionate about career - it's what they feel is the thing they can contribute the most to humanity - there's no reason the partner have the same passion - as long as the two of you are OK with each others' passions and support the other in it.
As many relationship coaches say - if your partner has the same interests as you, then you may as well be married to a mirror.