COguy

Aww, I'm very sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what that's like.

kitty0819

Just wanted to update everyone on my current situation. I filed for divorce back in April and am going to take depositions and file the final divorce decree tomorrow.

I still have days that feel like a thousand knives are digging into my heart, but have come such a long way thanks to counseling, friends, and family. I also started working, which helps me to socialize, and am doing photography, art, and graphic design again. I miss the companionship so much, but I am better off alone than miserable.

As for him. I don't talk to him anymore. He sent me a text and told me that he got the papers and that he didn't want to me to hate him anymore, that we both had our heads up our asses for a while. He also said that he wanted things to go smoothly since he had caused so much of my time to be ****ty. I guess he's just trying to make himself feel less guilty. But as far as I know, he is still with this girl. I find it sickening. She's still a teenager and he's nearing 30.

Catherine602

Well Kitty - this is what i think - 18 yo girls change dramatically year by year. Right now she if playing a game and enjoying the drama of getting a married man to leave his wife.

When she has him to herself and the drama subsides, she is left with a rather foolish 30 yr old man who is love sick and is likely to try to control her.

When she is ready to move on, you husband will realize that he has been used.

My suggestion is that you should not supply them with any more drama. Dont give them the pleasure of a show. Let them depend on each other for the excitement that is driving this relationship. Cut off all contact and communicate with him as little as possible.

Make sure that the divorce is as smooth as possible and don't be drawn into drama. Let your lawyer handle him. Try to avoid being present at the divorce. I think that you will see that your husband will try to keep the drama going. Don't let him draw you in.

Then watch the show unfold. When it ends your husband may try to re-establish contact with you. What you do is up to you but I hope that you will have moved on. He is likely to cheat again in the future. Let him sink on his own.

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