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iF IT HAD been read correcting i said EX spouse was abusive and used Key logger to control me. Im quit happy in my current circumstances thanks. I just think that the key logger is wrong my oppion and im WELCOMED to it. But those who are using it to spy of course are going to see it from a diffrent prospective they aren't guilty in the least bit of commiting a crime they COULDNT be part of the reason why their spouse is cheating....people don't just wake up and say "Hey today Im going to cheat on my wife..." or Husband it DOESN'T HAPPEN...this is a long time coming!!! Their are WARNING SIGNS!!!! You all seem to think i've never been on the reciving line well think again...i had a boyfriend who left me went to another country and told me "he'd be back in a month then e-mailed me that he had found someone eles....and it was both a girl and a guy!!! My ex husband cheated on me with one of my Older friends!!!!! I've had my share BUT two WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT THATS ALL THERE IS TO IT! You can get mad and spightful (like most women do) and use all ur energy OR you can deal with the problem (WITHOUT) hacking into his pc, find a decent lawyer and Divorce his Butt....(because MOST women know their man is cheating WAY before any stupid computer software is installed) Today's issue is the law works for women to get EVERYTHING they want and Men get NOTHING...!
Well the computer belonged to the HUSBAND not the wife therefor ITS A CRIME but she'd never be processed because she's a women and thats the way the world works but hey if it was a man he;d be carted off to jail in a heart beat!
iF IT HAD been read correcting i said EX spouse was abusive and used Key logger to control me. Im quit happy in my current circumstances thanks. I just think that the key logger is wrong my oppion and im WELCOMED to it. But those who are using it to spy of course are going to see it from a diffrent prospective they aren't guilty in the least bit of commiting a crime they COULDNT be part of the reason why their spouse is cheating....people don't just wake up and say "Hey today Im going to cheat on my wife..." or Husband it DOESN'T HAPPEN...this is a long time coming!!! Their are WARNING SIGNS!!!! You all seem to think i've never been on the reciving line well think again...i had a boyfriend who left me went to another country and told me "he'd be back in a month then e-mailed me that he had found someone eles....and it was both a girl and a guy!!! My ex husband cheated on me with one of my Older friends!!!!! I've had my share BUT two WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT THATS ALL THERE IS TO IT! You can get mad and spightful (like most women do) and use all ur energy OR you can deal with the problem (WITHOUT) hacking into his pc, find a decent lawyer and Divorce his Butt....(because MOST women know their man is cheating WAY before any stupid computer software is installed) Today's issue is the law works for women to get EVERYTHING they want and Men get NOTHING...!
Well the computer belonged to the HUSBAND not the wife therefor ITS A CRIME but she'd never be processed because she's a women and thats the way the world works but hey if it was a man he;d be carted off to jail in a heart beat!
Ya cause the world is unfair to men in comparison to women.
I'll remember to ask the women of India, China and the middle east..."why so glum, chum?"
in probably about 99.9% of cases where anyone (male or female) spies on their spouse is there any legal consequences, prosecutors just don't want to bother with such crimes
so your conspiracy theory about women getting the short end of the stick in this case is false
regardless, your opinion is completely based on the experience of your abusive husband. He spied as an abusive tool and not to protect a marriage or protect a betrayed spouse. Clearly I would hope you know the difference.
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I love how you have a defined definition of what's cheating when it comes to chatting online.
The truth is that there is no definitive particular act that is cheating, it's all about implicitly stated boundaries or implied boundaries. If your hubby is okey dokey with engaging in sex chats with "friends" then it's not cheating. But it mostly comes down to the fact that if you have to hide what you are doing from your spouse then it's likely crossing that boundary.
Im talking about when a man goes to get divorced from his wife she gets everything regurdless of the circumstances...Sin must be a women. I am a women and ive seen how my husbands ex was very spitful and tried to take all of his money and refused to get a job even had the nerve to steal his truck, come into our home steal his grandfathers camera and some other belognings that WEREN'T HERS but because they were "common-law" partners the court went in her favor even though they were NEVER hers...he did get his truck back (which wasnt hers to beging with!)
I dont have "sexual chats." so i dont appericate you assuming i do. He spied as a tool to Control all aspects of me that is why i beleive THAT its wrong its a form of control. No man or women has a right to control their partner. Everything should be Equal not just being married but when you Divorce EQUAL..! My husband knows I chat about NORMAL STUFF i dont talk about sex, people who sit there and talk about sex obviouly are losers who live in Mummys basment and play with themselfs lol I think cheating is only when its PHYSICAL...THATS WHAT IM STICKING TO...i'm sorry its Bitter Wives club day!
Im talking about when a man goes to get divorced from his wife she gets everything regurdless of the circumstances...Sin must be a women. I am a women and ive seen how my husbands ex was very spitful and tried to take all of his money and refused to get a job even had the nerve to steal his truck, come into our home steal his grandfathers camera and some other belognings that WEREN'T HERS but because they were "common-law" partners the court went in her favor even though they were NEVER hers...he did get his truck back (which wasnt hers to beging with!)
most states have no-fault divorces and all assets are divided 50/50 regardless of circumstance, child custody is also determined by fit parents otherwise it usually goes 50/50 or whatever the divorcing couple can agree on
thus again, your view that courts are biased toward men is false
I dont have "sexual chats." so i dont appericate you assuming i do. He spied as a tool to Control all aspects of me that is why i beleive THAT its wrong its a form of control. No man or women has a right to control their partner. Everything should be Equal not just being married but when you Divorce EQUAL..! My husband knows I chat about NORMAL STUFF i dont talk about sex, people who sit there and talk about sex obviouly are losers who live in Mummys basment and play with themselfs lol I think cheating is only when its PHYSICAL...THATS WHAT IM STICKING TO...i'm sorry its Bitter Wives club day!
never said you in particular had sex chats, I was giving an example based on your claim that EA's don't exist and you even still wish to claim that cheating has to be purely physical. Which is fine if you and your husband agree to that. But the overwhelming majority of us would consider having sexual chats with other people cheating because that's what we have defined in our marriages.
Im talking about when a man goes to get divorced from his wife she gets everything regurdless of the circumstances...Sin must be a women.
That’s not true at all. I know many women who are divorced. Not one of them got everything. The law does let them keep their half of the community assets. The man signed he marriage license which is a contract stating that they are each entitled to half of the community assets. What you are talking about here is a stereo type.
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Originally Posted by brat30
I am a women and ive seen how my husbands ex was very spitful and tried to take all of his money and refused to get a job even had the nerve to steal his truck, come into our home steal his grandfathers camera and some other belognings that WEREN'T HERS but because they were "common-law" partners the court went in her favor even though they were NEVER hers...he did get his truck back (which wasnt hers to beging with!)
Oh good grief, you only have his side of the story. Who knows that he did to her. Relationships are a two way street. You have no idea what really went on between the two of them.
I’ll give you an example. My ex-husband got rid of a lot of my belongings. They were expensive collectables. He hated them because he hated everything that was mine. He had a garage sale at his mother’s house and sold things for less than a penny on the dollar. I found out about this after the fact. He hid money, my money that I earned running a business, in his mother’s name.
When we got a divorce I was able to prove that he was hiding community assets. In the settlement he and his mother got to keep the money they stole from me. I got the house. My husband got a lot more than I did, there was more cash stolen then the equity in the house. But to this day he tells everyone who will listen about how I ripped him off in the divorce and too his house.
For all you know he did things, like maybe sold her valuables, so she took things in trade.
Since you speak badly of his ex, it’s clear that he speaks badly of her. I have little respect for anyone who speaks badly of their ex. Especially with the bitterness in which you express things about her. It tells me a lot about them and their emotional immaturity. Just remember that if and when the two of you break up… he will trash talk you in the same way as he trash talks her.
Well I think we have beat this subject dead, Emotial cheatting the ONLY way I could see it cheating is if two people had plans on meeting and they followed threw with it. I have great relationship with my current spouse, we talk openly, he and i both ocassinally chat (me more then him) But we have an agreement sex chats,(which i really am not into anyways but men can get very gross online) is Not happening) as far as cam sex its gross and not my thing. I think that when ur happy cheating isnt even an option but when somthing is missing thats when it happens.
There's no use responding to the OP. She's obviously the only one here who knows what is really going on in all our lives. Not to mention she's obviously the only one who knows how to really spell.
Well I think we have beat this subject dead, Emotial cheatting the ONLY way I could see it cheating is if two people had plans on meeting and they followed threw with it. I have great relationship with my current spouse, we talk openly, he and i both ocassinally chat (me more then him) But we have an agreement sex chats,(which i really am not into anyways but men can get very gross online) is Not happening) as far as cam sex its gross and not my thing. I think that when ur happy cheating isnt even an option but when somthing is missing thats when it happens.
There are some people who cheat regardless of the state of the marriage. They believe it is their right.
Re: Spying on your spouse, not such a good idea! 
