I've been struggling with my wife for a year, the issues are many after 20 years together and raising a family. After telling her many times the simple things she could do to save our marriage she simply will not change. Maybe I'm the bad guy too, who knows. I decided around last May that our marriage would likely end. At that point I tried a few more times then gave up. Now I am breaking communication with my wife because I don't want to try any longer.
Now I have a girlfriend. She knows I'm married of course but she remains in the picture.
This girlfriend: I don't know her all that well yet, but so far she's a better companion than my wife. I have my reservations about her but I'm also trusting my instinct which says she's the one for me.
I'd be planning to separate from my wife anyway but now that the girlfriend has come along I think things will be moving along faster in that direction. If the girlfriend doesn't turn out to be my longterm soulmate, at least I appreciate that she helped me make the change I need.
Question is: if a guy is married, picks up a girlfriend, then divorces his wife -- is it almost always the case that the guy and his girlfriend don't end up together much longer? Statistically speaking, what are the odds?
My cousin was at a similar point in his life, about 50, married all the years, raised a family. Found a girlfriend. Divorced. Then almost the same day his divorce was done his girlfriend dumped him. Forbidden fruit or something I guess. I don't think my present girlfriend is with me owing to this phenomenon but I thought I'd ask the experts here.
Now I have a girlfriend. She knows I'm married of course but she remains in the picture.
This girlfriend: I don't know her all that well yet, but so far she's a better companion than my wife. I have my reservations about her but I'm also trusting my instinct which says she's the one for me.
I'd be planning to separate from my wife anyway but now that the girlfriend has come along I think things will be moving along faster in that direction. If the girlfriend doesn't turn out to be my longterm soulmate, at least I appreciate that she helped me make the change I need.
Question is: if a guy is married, picks up a girlfriend, then divorces his wife -- is it almost always the case that the guy and his girlfriend don't end up together much longer? Statistically speaking, what are the odds?
My cousin was at a similar point in his life, about 50, married all the years, raised a family. Found a girlfriend. Divorced. Then almost the same day his divorce was done his girlfriend dumped him. Forbidden fruit or something I guess. I don't think my present girlfriend is with me owing to this phenomenon but I thought I'd ask the experts here.