When I asked to discuss and clarify this, as well as ask why the terms changed from what I originally understood, he would get angry and refuse to discuss anything clearly and would only tell me to take it to my lawyer.
This is wise advice. He gave it to you. He is being honest and using good judgment. He cannot explain all of the ramifications of the legalese. Only another attorney can. Notice, he didn't ask you to see his attorney, which would have been a conflict of interest. There is no deception involved. Get an attorney and ask all the questions you need answered.
After I pushed the subject further he told me no matter what he would not change the prenup because he believes a marriage is to share love and emotions only, not money
He is being honest and open, again. Seems like an upstanding individual. Exclusivity in sex and emotions is expected within a marriage. Otherwise, we would not be at a site that is replete with threads about infidelity and it's cause in divorce.
Money, property and possessions are the business end of the marital contract. He has taken care of that separately with this prenup. The courts won't allow for much negotiation. He is doing it all prior to the ceremony and subsequent divorce. Divorce is not a guarantee, but it is a possibility when 55% end that way their first time, and 70% the second.
and then claimed I was making it clear I was after his money, which is not the case.
It would seem less likely if you got your attorney to check these and came back with an offer of your own. You refuse, so what else would you believe was the conclusion? I don't see you complaining about the love, dedication, fidelity, or sexual benefits of your relationship. I'm not sure there is another conclusion.
He doesn't seem to understand that I feel as if he doesn't trust me or want me a part of his life and that the prenup makes me sound like a gold digger when I have previously never asked for anything from him money wise.