Marriage is about all that you each have.
You mean the combined total of what you have gathered over the years you were together and what you brought into it or what? Doesn't matter Diana. I used to believe that and still do for some folks who are poor. I believe it for some who might truly believe they are in love. I just know love doesn't matter. Promises don't last. Everyone lies. Couples get tired or sick of each other. Life is one endless change.
I also know that women with careers should be very happy to sign an agreement like this. It treats them with greater respect than they've ever known before, in marriage.
Again, I don't have to like it, it just is fact that these things happen. Why fight it?
What bothers me is, you have basically stated here, it is about the assets for you and women who think like you. I'd guess you are among the majority. I don't think you are oddly adjacent to the majority of women in opinions.
Then, I haven't read enough of your posts.
Oh, and no offense meant to you or any women. Life is life today. It's modern marriage. Get with it, folks.
My advise to clove would be to tell him that you aren't going to marry him until he gets full citizenship. See his reaction. If he genuinely wants to marry you then he wont mind waiting. If he reacts badly then that will tell you all you need to know abotu why he is wanting the wedding.
I do agree whole heartedly. I would not, if I were her, be the way he gets his citizenship. No way. No how. He can and should get it on his own before he decides to marry, or she can get citizenship in his country and move there.
I feel he may well be using you to get his citizenship which is why he wants that prenup for when he ends the marriage shortly afterwards.
So many people marry others purely to get to stay in that country. I was watching a programme about this the other night, so many people left broken and devastated when this happened to them.
Quite possible. I don't think so, though. All you have to do, op, is to tell him you will have to look into this prenup and add that he must be a citizen before you marry. Or, just tell him. WTF? Why is this so difficult? You can get another man anywhere.
Sorry but I have a very uneasy feeling about this.
I don't because she isn't in trouble unless she signs that before having an attorney check it out, and/or gets married before he becomes a citizen. PERIOD. Get me, op? Don't get married, yet. Tell him to become a citizen and see how he reacts. That, not what Diana suggests, will give you the answer you need.
If he does become one and stays with you, come back and we'll all talk.
Personally I think he is treating clove appallingly.I would run a mile.