That's irrelevant. Diana doesn't have to leave anything to anyone if she so chooses. Her money and assets are just that, HERS.
I am aware that @Diana7
has no obligation to give her adult biological children anything. I do however question her wisdom in giving it (or at least half of it) to a guy she's only known for 9 months.
He was earning a reasonable wage, so he had the money to go to court, and it could have come out of the profits of the house anyway. He just didn't think it was the right thing to do, to fight his then wife. It was far more than that, he always treated her well and with respect all through the divorce and after.
Your current second husband didn't think it was "right" to go to court to claim his right to half of the equity in a house that was rightfully and legally his, while he didn't have any other money or assets besides a used car and you think this is because he is a man of integrity. That's not the word that first comes to my mind.
By the way going to court to settle a disputed financial matter doesn't have to be a "fight". The two parties with their two attorneys each present their case to the judge and allow the court to decide what's fair. Better yet the two reasonable, respectful, and people with integrity both agree to what's fair without adversity and without the use of opposing attorneys, they draft a settlement agreement (possibly with one attorney who represents both of them) and present it to the court for final approval. There doesn't have to be any fighting, name calling or mudslinging, and in fact if they only thing they have to negotiate is splitting up the equity in the house, it won't require much of anything other than an appearance and presenting a few supporting documents.
We are Christians so living together isn't an option, and once you know you want to be together for life what is the point of waiting ? We were both in our late 40's then so delaying seemed pointless.
I know that you have decided to follow arbitrary rules by which to live your life which include no sex or living together outside of marriage. Whether its due to an artificial religious construct or the color of the sky makes no difference.
I knew in a week that he was the man for me, and the longer we knew each other the more sure I was.
You knew in a "week" that this was a man you wanted to be with for the rest of your life and you married 9 months after you first met. I'd like to gently suggest that 9 months is too short a period of time to really know a person, let alone a week, but I understand you and I differ on that particular point so there's really not much more to say about that.
As I said a prenup isn't for us. I would rather not marry that have a prenup. I am not even sure they are always adhered to in the divorce courts in the UK anyway.
As I've maintained, not getting married is much better protection from a legal/financial standpoint than a prenup (which can be challenged and overturned) so in a sort of twisted way you and I have finally found something we agree on.
That's not what marriage is all about. Its about what is ours not yours or mine. Its about total commitment and sharing of everything. Of thinking of the other person and not what you want. Of treating them with respect and fairness no matter what. Of acting with integrity no matter how others treat you.
Yes, but in reality marriage rarely turns out in that fairytale way that you so eloquently and hopefully and naively describe it, and a smart, cautious person will take steps to protect themselves because about 67% chance that things won't work out the way you expect them to. Unlike yourself, I can and do cite various references to support my claims. 67% OF SECOND MARRIAGES FAIL (CLICK HERE)