Re: Wife realizes now that she does not like living with my dog
Qwerster, you cannot have it all in life. Simplified . . . It really is ultimately her or the dog.
Your desire/love for pets is unlikely to ever go away. Why disrespecting her and yourself by not accepting that?
Will you both be sad initially if you let each other go? Sure. But it opens the door to each of you findng someone you are more naturally compatible with. And that natural compatibility makes life so much easier, especially when children and big life stressors (illness, financial difficulties, etc.) come along.
If you do not make the decision, she likely will. And it will probably come after many mutually unpleasant moments.
Do you really want things to end that way? Wouldn't facing and accepting this incompatibility realistically, respectfully, and maturely, right now, ultimately be a more truly loving (and time- and energy-saving) way to handle this?
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man