Re: Is it bad enough to divorce over?
This parallels some things in my recent marriage. I was friends with a some ex-GFs and a friend who was never an ex, but we hung out because she went to hs with me, lived near where I was staying st the time and had a kid around my kids age. Everything was strictly platonic and I have never ever given anyone I have ever been with reason to doubt me. She didn't like me being friends with this woman or my exs on facebook. Her defense was always, what if it were me, how would you feel. I couldn't argue that because despite her not being me, I guess it would make me feel insecure. Interestingly enough, down the road I had found out about sexting some dude and whatnot. Now, this was years later, but maybe **** happened earlier I missed? It's usually the ones who want to lock you down so that they know you are always on defense. People who are always on defense never think about going on offense, cause if she is so hard core watching me, clearly she wouldn't do anything.
That being said, anytime someone asks if "this" is dovorcable, it makes me think they are looking for an excuse to leave. You know how you feel and you know the doubt you have in your heart. Maybe MC works? Maybe not. The only thing that matters is you being true to yourself and ask yourself, "Given enough information and reassurance, will I ever trust her again?" If the answer is yes, then go MC and see if she can fulfill it. If the answer is no, then you know you are doomed and the longer you try to make it work, the more frustrating You'll feel nd the more anxiety you both will have.