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post #16 of 22 (permalink) Old 01-09-2017, 05:21 PM
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Re: bedroom talk has left me feeling awful

If he enjoys sex with the OP, he isn't gay.

He might be bi - depends on your definition. Is any woman who has fantasized about being with another woman bi? Or who kissed on at a party when drunk?

I don't think the labels matter in the slightest. What matters is:

Is he happy being intimate with the OP. I think the answer is "yes".

Is he going to cheat? Even if is bi, by some definition, that doesn't make it any more likely that if he were completely straight. Just changes who he would cheat with.

I think there is a good chance that the OP can find ways to play to his fantasy / kink that might keep him completely happy and would be fine with the OP. That is something they need to talk about to find out if there are things that they would both enjoy.

Yes, he could be mostly gay and planning to cheat or already cheating. He could be cheating with other women. He could be a serial rapist. Unless there is specific reason to be suspicious though, those are just the normal risks that everyone takes in a relationship.

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If he's fantasizing about being penetrated by other guys then he's bi or gay there's really no room for interpretation here.

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post #17 of 22 (permalink) Old 01-09-2017, 05:45 PM
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Re: bedroom talk has left me feeling awful

What should I do here? Advise please!

It appears you are working on many other issues beyond his bedroom fantasies.

Hoping things work out for you and your family.

My story: After a night on the town with him, wife exchanged inappropriate texts with her former boss.
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Re: bedroom talk has left me feeling awful

That has never even come close to bedroom talk or the heat of the moment.

He might be bi or in the closet. Look up some other post on here where years into the marriage, the husband or wife cheats with the same sex.
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Re: bedroom talk has left me feeling awful

Aw hell naw!!!
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post #20 of 22 (permalink) Old 01-09-2017, 09:44 PM
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Re: bedroom talk has left me feeling awful

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Am i finding another issue with our relationship when there isnt one?

My partner and i have always had a very active for-filling sex life. We have daily or twice daily sex. if we don't he mastubates so Im thinking HD. We do a lot of fantisy talk as well. Im just wondering if a lot of men or at least straight men express desire when they are really turned on to have another man penetrate them? I know he plays with his g spot and I get that, but Im feeling a bit uncertain that this isnt somthing more?

If you are a guy does this ring like a hetro fantasy or real desires to be with a man?
This one doesn't AT ALL.

However does it matter assuming he is not going to cheat.
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Re: bedroom talk has left me feeling awful

Well done OP for tackling this senstively with're so right not to judge him...but I do understand your concerns.

I can tell you one thing for sure - I have a gay brother and a straight brother. There is NO way in he!l that the straight one would EVER give oral, penetrate another male or allow one to penetrate him. No way.
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post #22 of 22 (permalink) Old 01-10-2017, 08:48 PM
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No question he's bi

I am pretty open minded but giving a bj or taking a guy would never be a thought.

Prostate play can be done if you press your knuckle near the taint after arousing him - good for a bi or hj

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