This is what I actually think also. My biggest issue in trying to find things to do on my own is I do not have alone time. My best friend that I used to golf with every weekend moved and basically all other things I like to do are done in the house. Since she never goes out with friends or anything (I long for her to spend time with her friends) I don't get alone time.
What do you think of this? I have sleep issues and experience insomnia sometimes. I sleep at most 5 hours a night and occasionally I wont sleep at all. Then I end up falling asleep early every once in a blue moon (8pm) and when I wake up she is mad at me for falling asleep early. This happens every few months. She usually falls asleep anywhere from 7-10. I usually fall asleep around midnight. If I start to fall asleep and she is awake she will do things to keep me from sleeping. I don't understand this at all and I can only think it is some kind of insecurity she has. Anyone have some insight into this?
This is a horrible. I too suffer for insomnia and my husband didn't seem to get it, he falls asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow, so if I were up to the early hours of the morning and only managed to get to sleep at ridiculous o'clock he would wake me as soon as he wakes in the morning, even though I didn't have to be up that early....it infuriated me! I had a talk with him and explained how insomnia plagues my life and how when I eventually get to sleep it is a very rare and precious thing for me and is not to be disturbed, he got the message. So really talk to your wife about it and explain how valuable sleep is to you because you can't sleep as easily as her.
I can also relate to your wife switching off as I'm guilty of doing with my husband when he talks about his job (which is engineering offshore) I didn't switch off to be rude or because I didn't want to listen to him, it was merely because I didn't understand any of it and can't really offer any input to the conversation, maybe that's the case with your wife, perhaps she just doesn't fully get it.
You should really try talking to her and explain to her that you are not having a pop at her, you just want to try and talk about it calmly because it's been bothering you. Hopefully she'll listen without getting angry and you can talk to her.
She may be insecure, I don't know, you'd have to say a bit more about her. But the walking you up thing could be anxiety, she doesn't like to feel on her own maybe.
You do need some alone time, all couples do. Having a bit of space from each other is healthy in a relationship. You should really make time for yourself to go and do something enjoyable just for YOU!
You mention your wife doesn't do anything with friends, is she reclusive, or does she avoid socialising? The reason I ask is because I have become that way and I now know it's because I've developed depression. I hope this isn't the case with your wife.
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