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post #1 of 67 (permalink) Old 01-10-2017, 10:32 PM Thread Starter
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Go to Visit, she spends half the night in her room...WTF?

Come over for one of my visits to my GF's. She has back trouble, so she moves around, lies on the floor, etc. No big deal. Then she says she wants to lie down in her bed as it's comfy. Again, no big deal. Asks me to join her, bring a movie for the new Blu Ray player she got for Xmas. I grab one, but the player doesn't work. "OKay," she said. "You can leave now, I need alone time." I grab my stuff to go (planned on overnight), but she says I can stay. She falls asleep. I went back to my place about an hour ago. I got three texts asking where I went.

She recently got on new medication, but I chalk this up to disrespect. You ask me over and then do this? I'm not planning on coming back now, unless I did something egregious. Because as I see it, she did. She has 4 nights a week to be alone. I'd be okay with this if we lived together, but we don't. Has anyone ever done this?

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Sounds weird. How often do you two have sex? She sounds interesting.

I spend the night 3-4 nights a week with my G/F and we have sex at least once daily, usually every night and each morning. There are kids, otherwise would do it more.
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We do it about 2-3 times a month. I think twice a week is reasonable. She also came up to get a drink and didn't say goodnight to me, which she hasn't done before.
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Not enough info yet. Back pain can be extremely debilitating. Or she claimed having back pain so you would not expect sex. What meds. is she on?
Maybe she is done with you?
Maybe you are the pain to her!
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Is this the same woman that I and a number of others encouraged you to dump last year?

If she is... well none of this should surprise you. If she isn't... perhaps you're dating the wrong women.
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Not enough info yet. Back pain can be extremely debilitating. Or she claimed having back pain so you would not expect sex. What meds. is she on?
Maybe she is done with you?
Maybe you are the pain to her!
What info can I give you? Only one I know is Risperdol. No, she has back pain. I'm to the point where I don't expect sex anymore, which is awful. I'm starting to get that vibe.
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What is the benefit of this relationship for you again?
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Beginning to wonder that...Part of it is the fact that I'll be seen by mutual friends/acquaintances as an ass because we're breaking up over perceived lack of sex.
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Oh, yes. Dump the load and move on. Since when are guys having trouble getting sex from girlfriends even considering staying?
You think it'll get better? Lol, no
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What info can I give you? Only one I know is Risperdol. No, she has back pain. I'm to the point where I don't expect sex anymore, which is awful. I'm starting to get that vibe.
Risperadal is a powerful medication originally prescribed to treat Schizophrenia. Now it is given for the short term treatment of mania and depression.

Schizophrenia is a mental illness that can cause people to lose interest in life and develop abnormal thoughts and emotions. The side effects can be severe. Lowered sex drive lethargy and sleepiness are common. Her back problems could be coming from her kidneys not functioning, drug relatd. That is a small possibility. Her balance is likely affected. She may have fallen when in a stupor. This drug really messes you up.

She is not being mean to you, she is really unwell. Cut her some slack.

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Oh, yes. Dump the load and move on. Since when are guys having trouble getting sex from girlfriends even considering staying?
You think it'll get better? Lol, no
Marry them so you can get more sex.
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I'm trying to figure out which is worse, a schizo or no sex drive.
I say move on with either scenario.
Just me.
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Beginning to wonder that...Part of it is the fact that I'll be seen by mutual friends/acquaintances as an ass because we're breaking up over perceived lack of sex.
Why would it bother you what your friends think.You are responsible for your own happiness nobody else.To me this was blatant disrespect and I would have left too.
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@Jayg14 ~ I heartily applaud you for leaving ~ greatly sounds like you're being strung along by her and her "backbreaking story" for just a little bit of occasional non-sexual companionship!

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What's the plus side to this relationship? I don't think she is intentionally disrespecting you, I think she has personal issues she is dealing with and you are just background noise. I wouldn't let her issues become your issues, it's time to move along and find woman better suited for you.
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