10-16-2007, 06:52 PM
Join Date: Oct 2007
| | A huge problem... need advice please!
I dont know how in depth I should go, but here is the basic problem I have run into. My fiancee has just started going back to a university for school and the Army ROTC. She has very controlling parents, that still control her even at the age of twenty. So what has been happening is she is swamped with school work, she has obligations to the Army, and on top of that, her parents have been telling her they dont like me. She doesnt see where they get this idea from, and her mother said that if I just call and appologize, it would help. I am working on that currently, but we both are baffled at what I must "appologize" for. What this has all caused is a stress on her because her family doesnt like me. She has now gotten very depressed and has started questioning whether she even makes me happy, and no matter how much I tell her she does, she just wont listen. She says that I am not supporting her, when i am trying everything I can to allieviate some of the stress. The problem is, I have become depressed myself because she says she will do something and hardly ever follows through. I know she is busy, but when I see her following through for everything else and leaving me out, well you get the picture. I dont know what to do, she is starting to get worse, having suicidal thoughts, and trying to avoid me... Any advice and thoughts are appreciated!