Re: Is he abusive or just an a**hole - is there a difference????
I grew up with this same thing. Yes! I took it right into my marriage.
I would have a tantrum, get over it, and to me, it never happened. My wife would complain, I would promise to get better, and would, for about a week.
I have no idea why I could not control it, he!! I could not even see what I was doing to my wife and kids. I guess I felt that if I got over it, they must too? I was a great guy between fits, surely my wife knew that? thats why she stayed with me. she could take some bad with the good, right?
NOT! The only thing that got my attention, got me to change was her packing her bag's. Only the severe threat of loosing my wife and family was enough to wake me up.
Do what you need to do to wake his A$$ up!
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