Re: Brother wants to marry his girlfrend and let her make life and death decisions...
Since she has a brother and a sister, she should be able to relate to some degree that you are there for each other.
I hope he can let this go as long as those girls (?) stay away physically, on social media, phones, no contact.
He can't afford stress or anger as it drains him further. I hope she can work something out with you for the sake of her husband, daddy, and also known as your brother. Make peace for the sake of his health.
Boost his self esteem. When I feel bad, I think to myself some pitiful thoughts now and then. I have very little time to give in to that because I love my family and friends and they love me! I have a disease that's vert different that what your brother has, but the will to live, the treasured feeling that your family and friends have your back. When you get that stressed, it takes a deeper toll on the body. Awful feelings swirling around his head best get knocked out asap!
What is running through his head right now? Does he believe her? Has his feeling of security been shattered. She can make that up if he will allow it.
Ditch the chicks,
Work on you two,
Then on the three of you
Watch for depression
When he expresses fear, offer to call the doctor to get his numbers, give him whatever hope there is. Or find things that either sooth or inspire him, like quotes or catch phrases. The groups and websites are more used by family, caregivers and a few who have energy between chemo, or in remission. Nothing to make him feel worse about himself, but enough to keep fighting.
Build him up and build her up as well, if she earns it!
Anger and stress will deplete energy he doesn't even have, so she'd better be making things right!
I hope those stinkers don't come back. She should enforce it!
I hope things get worked out! I said a prayer for you.
Last edited by Seasong; 03-24-2017 at 12:48 AM.