Re: Brother wants to marry his girlfrend and let her make life and death decisions...
Just a few more days and they will officially be husband and wife! That's great all the details are coming together.
As a new mother, her hormones are in a massive upheaval, lack of sleep... It can be especially rough the first few weeks, known as the baby blues. I had them with my middle child. Plus, the extreme stress from the cancer, and you've got a frazzled new mom.
It's hard to tell without her telling you. It could also be you may have hurt her feelings. Or maybe she's not sure how to react to needing space and knowing it offended you.
Third, and if this is possible, maybe in time you can help her with this-- You and your brother are close. She may see that as competition, When it shouldn't be. Unless either of you have felt jealous, don't discount if you sense it. You may figure out some other possibilities.
Whatever is going on may get resolved with some time. Especially if it's baby blues! She may be feeling a little blue over the wedding itself since he's sick and she just gave birth. Maybe find a moment and give her a heartfelt welcome to the family. That you're glad he's found love with her and they share the joy of their precious Lucas.
Also, it's normal for your brother to wax and wane with his feelings over progress. He's got his son and wife to help him stay positive, and family. But he knows it's serious.
Ask him if the doctors are giving him any results in counts or any scans or tests he'll have done to have anything to compare progress. Doctors don't necessarily keep patients abreast of the numbers, or even fill them in on what to watch for.
I hope this made sense, as I can feel one of my meds kicking in. Sorry I didn't write sooner. I can't always type!
Last edited by Seasong; 02-22-2017 at 11:26 PM.