Re: Brother wants to marry his girlfrend and let her make life and death decisions...
A little word of hopefully wise advise. When a couple are married, they are supposed to physically and emotionally leave their previous family and be a new unit on their own. This doesn't mean that they can't see and have contact with their wider families, but that their new family is now their priority and focus. He is supposed to put his wife and child first, and she is supposed to put her husband and child first.
I appreciate that you seek to have this close relationship with him, especially now that he is ill, but she and the baby are now the number one and two priorities in his life, and that's how it should be.
So take a step back, try not to swamp them, help out ONLY when asked(they know that you are wiling to help), and contact them maybe once or twice a week to see how things are going, maybe visiting once a week or so to see them all if they are ok with that, and give as much attention to her as to him.
They are now a new unit, you have to appreciate that. Its not 'him' or 'her', its 'them'.Never ever make him chose between you in anyway, he should chose her.
Let them have this time and space of newly being married with a new baby, a sometimes challenging time normally, even more so with this illness, they need this period of time.
Can I ask if you are married or have a partner?
Last edited by Diana7; 03-03-2017 at 04:03 AM.