Re: Brother wants to marry his girlfrend and let her make life and death decisions...
Yes, it takes a toll. There's no way around that. He may also be on meds that make him like that. Hopefully the end of this week he'll make some progress!!
The last time I was in the hospital it was 6 days. I was on all kinds of monitors and that crazy air pressure bed that sounds like a hissing snake every time I moved. And I have a movement disorder! At night they wake you up, blah blah... so finally I was out of pain, everyone was leaving me alone for a bit and then I slept. So when an innocent respiratory therapist came in at like not even 5 am to treat me, I came unglued. It didn't matter, that's life in the hospital.
I couldn't handle visitors for more that ten minutes, except my husband stayed with me the whole time. It's more the support. Because KNOWING people still love you, see Him, not just cancer, it matters. And knowing he's in a tough tough fight helps. Some hold fundraisers to pay hospital bills etc.
How much do you know about his dos and don'ts coming from the doctor.
Some docs have paperwork provided, others, face to face talk type.
Does it all go through the newlyweds?
His cancer is tough to treat, but uts treatable, especially since he's young and previously healthy.
Do you know what stage he has? Stage 1 2 3 4?
Do you know if hi tumor was near an eye, etc? Or if he has more than one?
Last, that was great news to read that the wife was in a better mood and even acknowledged you! For her to be in a better mood means brother must be doing better! What are the rules in ICU for the wee one? Can she allow dad a quick peak at his little blue eyed twin in his room? Some hospitals have strict policies. Others understand as long as dad has no current fever.
I'm convinced the problem grew like it did because of the yucky word cancer, and secondary having baby right in the turmoil. I hope none of her friends or family tried to influence her to not marry him. That would put a wall up!
I hope his smile will soon melt worries away when you have him in front of you!
Take care of you, and give the boyfriend some extra hugs!!
Last edited by Seasong; 03-14-2017 at 12:16 AM.