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post #16 of 32 (permalink) Old 02-04-2017, 01:32 PM
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Re: Sleeping with or without clothes

In the first 15 years of our marriage when we slept in the same bed, we both slept naked. Then I got a job that required that I wake up early and received faxes and phone calls all hours of the night since my business was in Hong Kong with a 12 hour time difference. Plus I snore and have sleep apnea which requires a machine to be running all night. That and I was away from home living in hotels for 3 months out of the year and separate bedrooms made sense. Some think that is terrible but it has no effect on our 44 year marriage other than better sleep for both of us.

We did what worked for the both of us and in your case, you should do the same. If it bother's your wife for you to sleep naked, then don't. I got used to wearing boxer shorts and a tee shirt to sleep if for no other reason than to keep my sheets cleaner. However, whether it be with girlfriends or my wife, we both slept naked in my younger days.


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If she doesn't want to do it, I don't think she is going to change her mind. Awkward, how? Have you asked? Do you two have a great sex life?
I think she feels more comfortable in clothing, though she is uncomfortable just being nude due to some body image issues. She also says she has a fear of having to rush to get up unexpectedly.

Sex life is meh. We both enjoy it, but I would like to have sex a lot more often. I really enjoy intimacy, sexual and non-sexual. She has admitted that she sometimes avoids intimacy because it might lead to sex.
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If I had a body like Kim K, absolutely! But I have the body of Tess Holiday (maybe slightly smaller), soooo... Yeah. No nude sleeping for me. Lol

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What does it matter? You're in your bed sleeping. No one but your SO will see and I'd hope that they'd love you naked no matter what you look like.

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I don't like sleeping without my boxers on (outside of that not much else since I pretty much run like a furnace). Plus, if my W slept naked she would get bothered a lot more by me, not sure if that is a good or bad thing.
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I don't like to sleep naked because I become subconsciously aware of it in my dreams and they turn into those "naked in public" nightmares. Then I wake up in a cold sweat and can't get back to sleep.
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@2ntnuf - that was just a tad bit too much reality.

I've tried sleeping nude but it's uncomfortable. So it's sleeping pants or shorts and a shirt.

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We wear sweats to bed. It's too damn cold not to. Sometimes I will even wear a hat and gloves.

In the summer I wear men's boxers and a tshirt or tank top.

STBXH sleeps nude year round or in just his briefs. I hated it because he has really bad acne all over his entire body and it felt awful against my skin.

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@2ntnuf - that was just a tad bit too much reality.

I've tried sleeping nude but it's uncomfortable. So it's sleeping pants or shorts and a shirt.
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I really enjoy sleeping in the nude with my wife, especially below the waist. She hates it. I find it to be uniquely intimate, and almost as bonding as sexual intercourse, but she says it's awkward and won't do it. I respect her feelings, but I don't get the awkwardness. Can anyone give me insight here? Has anyone felt this way and come to enjoy sleeping in the nude with a spouse?
I don't know about awkwardness, yet I can relate that when I first started dating my wife, she wore pyjamas for the first few nights, until I told her it felt better sleeping naked. As a consequence close to 21 years later she still sleeps naked almost all of the time.

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I always wonder what I'd do if there was a fire and I had to run out.
Which reminds me, back in 1996 my now wife and I went to the Sydney Opera House, to see Crowded House do their so called Farewell to the World Concert. When it ended we couldn't get a taxi or a bus back because they were full and didn't bother with a train, so we walked the 7km back to her place and after a long day went to sleep naked.

Then at some point in the AM I was woken up by all of these voices outside her bedroom door (she lived in a share house), they were Fire Brigade people saying it's all clear and the fire was out. Anyway being butt naked and knowing that if there had been a fire, opening the door would let crap in so I didn't disturb my partner and went back to sleep.

As it turned out the place was a mess because, one of the girls had knocked a candle over in her room, which hit the curtains and then made a terrible mess of the room and hallway. The funny thing was no one checked on us, because they thought we were still out. As an aside I thought it was funny one of my mates was one of the guys who attended that fire.

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To each his or her own. I enjoy feeling a soft body next to mine, but it isn't even necessary. A comforting woman is more than skin deep. In fact, it's easier to fall asleep if I'm not horny because she is naked and I can feel her soft body.
Sleeping naked has always been the norm for me whether alone or mutually with all of my long term sexual relationships. So sleeping next to a naked woman in and of itself doesn't generate a rise as such. So falling asleep has never been an issue.
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Hi @Haiku, I hope your weekend is going well.

I'm home alone at the moment since my wife and kids are visiting the mother-in-law, so it's TAM right now and the Xbox shortly.
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Sleeping naked has always been the norm for me whether alone or mutually with all of my long term sexual relationships. So sleeping next to a naked woman in and of itself doesn't generate a rise as such. So falling asleep has never been an issue.
Glad you didn't get hurt from the fire.

Great story.

Well, I guess I just enjoy the soft skin of a woman touching mine.

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Naked isn't ok but we like to sleep Nekkid. Sexier that way. Plus if the urge hits you don't have to waste time taking anything off. Midnight or morning wood is good!!!!
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I really enjoy sleeping in the nude with my wife, especially below the waist. She hates it. I find it to be uniquely intimate, and almost as bonding as sexual intercourse, but she says it's awkward and won't do it. I respect her feelings, but I don't get the awkwardness. Can anyone give me insight here? Has anyone felt this way and come to enjoy sleeping in the nude with a spouse?
Why don't you make a compromise with your wife. You can sleep naked during the weekend?

As much as I love sex (which I don't get anymore), I still like to sleep with my PJs on because I feel something is missing if I don't.
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With kids that like to come into the bed after 6am, we both keep some clothing on. She has a night gown with no panties and I wear boxer briefs. still hot and lets me slip in it easily.

If we are without kids, no clothes absolutely. Only way to go!
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