So for the past 2+ months, I had been seeing a girl I go to church with. She's 28 and is 8-9 months out of an 11 yr relationship that included physical abuse and multiple infidelities. She has 3 kids with her ex, goes to school full-time, and works part-time. I'm 41 and have been divorced for almost 6 yrs.
With her hectic schedule, we've had limited opportunities to do things together but we've managed to do some lunches, about 4-5 dates, a lot of texting and talking on the phone, and yes, we've been intimate. I've even been introduced to her children, although they know me from church.
We'd both discussed the fact that neither of us were seeing other people but she said she wasn't ready to be considered bf/gf yet and that she just wanted to go slow before making that classification. She's consulted with her mother, a close family friend (who's in her 50s), her aunt, and our pastor about me, all of which have given her an approving word.
Everything went south this past week. I thought we would get together because it was her kids weekend with their dad. We had lunch together Thursday. Then I call her Friday and she says she'd made plans with her girls. On Saturday, she didn't respond to my normal "good morning" text until like 3 pm which is highly unusual. Every subsequent text was met with very short replies. Again unusual. Then I asked why she was being of so few words, she said she didn't have much to talk about. Again, so not the norm. She then doesn't return my normal after work phone call. Again, not the norm. I try a few hours later and her "girl" picks up and tells me she's busy. My lady friend eventually answers saying she went bowling with her "girls" and that she didn't owe me any explanation and that I didn't control her.
Later, we talk and she's going on and on about how she's feeling pressured to be in a relationship she's not ready for. She tells me I'm being controlling and manipulative and that she just couldn't take all the questions. I'm like huh? Just days earlier, she was telling me how awesome and perfect I was and was telling me to think of a way to schedule a getaway!
What gives? And understand I've not spoke to her since Sunday with no plans to initiate any communication. I saw her at church yesterday and managed to receive a smile when eye contact was made. But I'm really more curious than anything about what everyone thinks happened. I'm blown away! Not hurt but just confused! Any how, sorry this was so long!
With her hectic schedule, we've had limited opportunities to do things together but we've managed to do some lunches, about 4-5 dates, a lot of texting and talking on the phone, and yes, we've been intimate. I've even been introduced to her children, although they know me from church.
We'd both discussed the fact that neither of us were seeing other people but she said she wasn't ready to be considered bf/gf yet and that she just wanted to go slow before making that classification. She's consulted with her mother, a close family friend (who's in her 50s), her aunt, and our pastor about me, all of which have given her an approving word.
Everything went south this past week. I thought we would get together because it was her kids weekend with their dad. We had lunch together Thursday. Then I call her Friday and she says she'd made plans with her girls. On Saturday, she didn't respond to my normal "good morning" text until like 3 pm which is highly unusual. Every subsequent text was met with very short replies. Again unusual. Then I asked why she was being of so few words, she said she didn't have much to talk about. Again, so not the norm. She then doesn't return my normal after work phone call. Again, not the norm. I try a few hours later and her "girl" picks up and tells me she's busy. My lady friend eventually answers saying she went bowling with her "girls" and that she didn't owe me any explanation and that I didn't control her.
Later, we talk and she's going on and on about how she's feeling pressured to be in a relationship she's not ready for. She tells me I'm being controlling and manipulative and that she just couldn't take all the questions. I'm like huh? Just days earlier, she was telling me how awesome and perfect I was and was telling me to think of a way to schedule a getaway!
What gives? And understand I've not spoke to her since Sunday with no plans to initiate any communication. I saw her at church yesterday and managed to receive a smile when eye contact was made. But I'm really more curious than anything about what everyone thinks happened. I'm blown away! Not hurt but just confused! Any how, sorry this was so long!