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post #16 of 94 (permalink) Old 02-16-2017, 10:42 PM
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Are acronyms such as WTF, OMFG, JFC, etc ban-able offenses also?
These are ok.

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This is primarily a matter of tone. There is no way to police all the permutations you clever folks might construct.

Our primary focus is the use of clever spellings to defeat the obscenity filter for the purpose of bashing someone or some thing.




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Good question.

On the way down without a ****tail in sight, some of us were allowed to have a look inside the ****pit. Once the flight was over and we stepped off the ramp, I told my troops to go to "action", which saw all of them **** their weapons, as a few ****atoos flew by.



As I understand it and I could be very wrong, they're all okay except for the second one which is a contraction that might be interpreted as contravening the filter?
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It can get tricky for some topics. If a woman is being disparaged for having had a lot of partners, it is nice to be able to accuse people of [that work that often proceeds] shaming. Its a phrase that is in such common use that its easier to say than to try to explain the long history, but current practice of making negative comments about promiscuous women.

Your board, your rules, but it will make some discussions tricky.

I completely agree with stopping offensive content, but I don't know if blocking words is an efficient way to achieve that goal.
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It can get tricky for some topics. If a woman is being disparaged for having had a lot of partners, it is nice to be able to accuse people of [that work that often proceeds] shaming. Its a phrase that is in such common use that its easier to say than to try to explain the long history, but current practice of making negative comments about promiscuous women.

Your board, your rules, but it will make some discussions tricky.

I completely agree with stopping offensive content, but I don't know if blocking words is an efficient way to achieve that goal.
Agreed. I've called out people for **** shaming other users.

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Personal,

This is primarily a matter of tone. There is no way to police all the permutations you clever folks might construct.

Our primary focus is the use of clever spellings to defeat the obscenity filter for the purpose of bashing someone or some thing.
Bash, as opposed to a personal attack? So, "OP what the fück were thinking", no go. But, "OP WTF were you thinking", ok. And in the proper context, "my wife was a slüt (her words)", probably ok.

How much do they pay mods? Nothing, what the fück? I'll chip in, thanks guys!



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I understand the intent but don't agree with the premise. Profanity is part of the English language and is sometimes very effective at driving home a point. As long as we are not "bashing" each other, it is one of the most effective ways of driving home a point when it needs driving home and nothing else is working. There should be no minors here and one has to assume that people who come to an English-medium forum have a reasonable grasp of the language to recognise the context of profanity.

An example that crops up often is when someone is sugar coating the fact that their spouse is engaged in a very serious personal and intimate activity with another vile person and to describe it as "making love" or "having sex" or "fornicating with" is sometimes nowhere near as effective as ****ing! That word would wake the listener up not antagonise them.

But I guess freedom of speech cannot really be applied here so I will comply (but reluctantly and certainly am not in agreement with).

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This is primarily a matter of tone. There is no way to police all the permutations you clever folks might construct.

Our primary focus is the use of clever spellings to defeat the obscenity filter for the purpose of bashing someone or some thing.
I, for one, can certainly adhere to these new rules and regulations, in such a way so as to fully embrace my God-given and collegiately endowed linguistic abilities in such a way, so as to live up to, by not knowingly or intentionally, trying to unduly suppress either the ends of some systems $10.99 spam filter or by not intentionally stepping on somebody's toes with any of my often rather pointed linguistics!

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Whoda thunk there would be a hoo-ha about hoohas here.

Trying to elevate the level of discourse is a noble cause. I will do my level best to clean up my act.

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But, while not intentionally trying to circumvent the filter, I will continue to still spell the word "a$$" in a cutesy mode, more especially when referring to my RSXW; after all, her a$$ does and has always continued to remain wealthy!

And skanky beyond sheer comprehension! '

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I'm sorry but I self filter, and probably will continue to. There are certain words That I simply don't say even when I strike my thumbnail with a hammer or when a cow slaps me with her befouled tail tuft, or when trying to unstick a frozen bolt.

I do find it amusing that I can still say that this ****amamie profanity filter is FUBAR and the policy was obviously written by a b***** minded b******.

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Also, posting images of videos of obscene gestures, linking to obscene web sites, posting obscene or graphic descriptions of a decidedly adult nature, and violating a standard of decent behavior is not allowed.

February 21st is the deadline for full enforcement of the measure.
Does this mean that we can't post Memes with an offensive word?

Like this one as an example...

Or this...


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Ummmm.....

I love yall. I know moderating is tricky, tough, underappreciated, and WAY underpaid (not paid. LOL!)

This is kinda on the silly side, but whatevs! (Agree 110% with uhtred.) Just know in advance that if I personally mess up, it isn't intentional!

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I admit I've been guilty of trying to defeat the obscenity filter and will stop. Looks like my swear jar won't fill up as fast as it's been.

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Perhaps disallowing creative spelling will encourage the correct anatomical words instead of blindly "down there" or incorrectly vagina when vulva or labia or clitoris should be used instead.

Anyway thanks for communicating the new rule. I was not aware of it and I am frequently guilty of creative spelling, and not just from being a bad speller.

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Well, hot damn!!! I don't know if damn will get censored but I love that I can say ass. Ass. Ass. Ass.

LOL.

Edit-Oh good. I can say damn too!

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