Re: need your thoughts
Ok, I know I had posted an update a few days ago but some things have happened and some thoughts on my mind. In my last update I think I mentioned how she had told me she was going to a friends to watch a movie and told me this whole story the next morning about what they watch, that they had "girl talk" and a conversation she had with her friends daughters. Only to find out that she didn't go to the friends house but went out to a restaurant with that same friend. I never let her know that I knew she lied and didn't really care being that I did find out the truth through other means and she didn't do anything wrong other then lie to me and tell me some made up story about it. All that followed up Monday morning by all kinds of accusations of me putting a GPS on her car, her not believing me when I said I didn't, and all kinds of other accusations about me telling all my friends that she had an affair, which I didn't. The texts were crazy and discussing them with a friend our only conclusion was that she was testing me and trying to bait me into admitting I was spying and tracking her. I do understand it to a point, she has told me that she doesn't feel comfortable in our relationship because she constantly feels that I'm watching her, investigating her and "building a case against her", and that's why she hasn't been able to open up again.
That being said, the same kind of thing happened again this weekend. She was going to a jewelry party at a neighbors house up the street. First she asked our son if he wanted to walk up there with her and see if the kids were there. Then later she said that she'd walk up and if the kids were there, she'd walk back to get him, the key word here being "walk". So when she left, she told me she was going to drive up because she wanted to stop and pick up a bottle of wine to bring. Not a big deal, but then I start thinking well we have a lot of nice wine and decent wine in the house already, why not bring one of those? But whatever I don't say anything about it, but she did say again that if the kids were there she'd come back to pick up our son. So now a little while later, and after I knew she would be there after picking up wine, I text her "Guess no kids?" and she texts back no. So a little while later I'm out front having a smoke and things just feel off. I look in the window and see my son is face planted in his ipad, lol, so I jump on a bike and ride up the block. The car is there so I head back, all good.
So around 11pm she texts me that they're going out dancing, and I text her to have fun. I go upstairs, lay down and watch TV in bed, I probably fell asleep a little before midnight. The next morning when we wake up, I ask her about her night. She tells me where they went and how they went to 2 places, both were bad so they came back. Then I ask her what time she got home, and she tells me sometime around midnight. So I start thinking, 30 minutes to drive to the area, stopped in at 2 places that were a 5-10 minute walk apart, have at least a drink at each place, and then a 30 minute drive home. She texted me a little after 11 that they were going and she said she got home around midnight, the timeline doesn't work out at all. So I check the footage from my security cameras and she got home at almost 1:30am. And not that I think she was out doing something she shouldn't have been doing but midnight vs. 1:30am is a big difference to mistake. I looked through her phone again the next night and saw texts with friends about where she was and who she was with, and didn't see anything suspicious so I just feel a little confused.
Why keep lying to me about where she is and what time she got home when you're not doing anything wrong?