Re: need your thoughts
I find it kind of funny, people come to this forum to ask for advice and suggestions on how to possibly fix their broken marriage. It doesn't matter if it's just not getting along, an affair or whatever else, a lot of the posts I've read and my own are truly looking for help to try and fix things. Maybe it's just me but I truly feel that anything in a relationship can be fixed. One of my biggest issues in my current situation is that no matter how I present the question, my wife doesn't want to address our problems yet. From what I've seen, heard and heard from friends, she doesn't want to get a divorce. But she also doesn't want to talk to me about our problems, which is why I posted my story.
I wanted to try and get suggestions on how to get her to finally open up and talk about our problems together and possibly try and work things out. I know what she did, I know what I did, I know she doesn't seem to care, but I also know that she is a caring woman, a great mother and in general a good person. I've laid out everything here looking for some help, and all I seem to get is criticism. I've seen numerous comments of "just get a divorce" and all kinds of other negative non supportive comments. I know what happened so there's no reason to dig any deeper. What happened happened and I don't really care about that. I just want to see if we can repair the relationship and go from there.
It really seems like the only people here are angry bitter divorcees that not only failed in their own marriages but also either did nothing to work on them or just failed at trying to fix their relationships themselves. Why not share your experiences of what happened, what you did right or what you did wrong, things that may actually help people who post their problems here? Like I've said, I'm not naïve, I'm not gullible and I'm not stupid. I've done my investigating, I know what's happened and what's happening now in my relationship. I do still love my wife and mother of our son. It's because of him that I want to try and fix thing things and not just walk away. I've seen to many majorly screwed up kids that became that way because of divorce, and I don't want that for my son. But honestly a good majority of you people are pathetic. If you have nothing helpful to say, keep it to yourselves. For those of you who actually have some advice on how to get her to open up to me without threating her with divorce or spying on her to collect evidence to confront her with, let's here it. Please.