Originally Posted by tropicalbeachiwish View Post
How did the weekend go? Did your wife make an appearance?
It's been a roller coaster of a ride. Her sister and BF in Thailand called me several times on my last trip, and were acting as "mediator" for the two of us. That was appreciated.
They asked if I would take her back, to which I replied, of course! I called her a day before I flew home, and she picked up. We talked for 20 minutes, which was nice, but nothing really deep.
When I arrived home, she wasn't there. I called and asked where she was, she picked up (This was progress.. like 3 or 4 calls in a row she picked up! I was shocked honestly) She said she was at her apartment. I told her to get her butt home! She said, ok.
Long story short, she showed up, we talked. She said she built walls, (Duh) and I said to stop building them with me. I told her if she kept doing that, she would destroy us. I cried a little and asked her to please stop it (It was a forceful, yet kind demand!) She looked at me, and said, OK. I won't do that anymore.
She said she loved me like crazy, and was afraid to get hurt like in the past. I told her that we were a safe place, and she said, ok.
I took her with me to NYC for work last week. It was a great trip. One time, I said something that hurt her feelings, and she got mad, but told me. It was a big step. I quickly apologized, and she said no big deal and let it go.
I think we reached an understanding that we had previously not been able to reach. She said she was just scared and it was her only way of dealing with the fear.
I couldn't be happier. She is much more stable now (under 2 weeks, but still..) and I feel that we really connected like we haven't been able to before.
We even took the "love languages" tests, and I was really surprised by her results:
Quality Time was a 10.
Physical touch was a 9
Gifts were a 0 lol. I had it all wrong.
I think we are going to be ok. Just the fact that she got upset, and was able to move on when I apologized, was a big deal.
I'll keep ya posted, but for now, moving forward as a couple is the best thing possible!