Ok, this ones for the ladies (and gents if you wish... we don't really discriminate here!)
My wife (6 months pregnant) says that she can't feel passion, give kisses, etc because I have hurt her feelings too much in the past. We've only been married a little while.
Says I don't listen to her.
Says I don't care about her and her desires.
Says I don't try.
I realize that it might be the pregnancy speaking here, or perhaps I am an ignorant baffoon. I, personally, think I try very very hard. I don't get angry, I give her foot rubs nightly, I buy her cards and leave them around the house (She said to stop doing this!) I suprise her with flowers (When she gets mad, into the trash they go!) I watch TV with her for hours (I hate watching TV, but do this because she loves it) I help cook, I help clean, I do laundry, I work full time (She isn't working currently), I do the Ironing.
I'm confused. I tried to give her passionate kisses today and she said she can't kiss me deeply anymore because I've hurt her too much.
I realize women's feelings are more sensitive then men's, but what am I doing wrong here? Of all my relationships, I have never tried so hard to please anyone. I give her oral sex almost daily, and she doesn't ever return the favor (Maybe 4 times since we've been married.) She doesn't complain that physical is all I want, which I always think she'll say... so I don't get it.
It seems to be an emotional thing, but she builds walls that are getting harder and harder to scale!
Any input for a dumb brute here? What have you found that makes you feel emotionally connnected to your man when he does it?
My wife (6 months pregnant) says that she can't feel passion, give kisses, etc because I have hurt her feelings too much in the past. We've only been married a little while.
Says I don't listen to her.
Says I don't care about her and her desires.
Says I don't try.
I realize that it might be the pregnancy speaking here, or perhaps I am an ignorant baffoon. I, personally, think I try very very hard. I don't get angry, I give her foot rubs nightly, I buy her cards and leave them around the house (She said to stop doing this!) I suprise her with flowers (When she gets mad, into the trash they go!) I watch TV with her for hours (I hate watching TV, but do this because she loves it) I help cook, I help clean, I do laundry, I work full time (She isn't working currently), I do the Ironing.
I'm confused. I tried to give her passionate kisses today and she said she can't kiss me deeply anymore because I've hurt her too much.
I realize women's feelings are more sensitive then men's, but what am I doing wrong here? Of all my relationships, I have never tried so hard to please anyone. I give her oral sex almost daily, and she doesn't ever return the favor (Maybe 4 times since we've been married.) She doesn't complain that physical is all I want, which I always think she'll say... so I don't get it.
It seems to be an emotional thing, but she builds walls that are getting harder and harder to scale!
Any input for a dumb brute here? What have you found that makes you feel emotionally connnected to your man when he does it?