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post #46 of 164 (permalink) Old 03-01-2017, 08:18 AM Thread Starter
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Re: Flowers sent to an Italian girl

What you have said could be a valid assessment.

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Honey, you are a nice guy.

Stop over analyzing this.

Simply say, "Are you interested in us meeting each other in person, or would you rather keep this a cyber friendship?"

Then you will have your answer.

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Honey, you are a nice guy.

Stop over analyzing this.

Simply say, "Are you interested in us meeting each other in person, or would you rather keep this a cyber friendship?"

Then you will have your answer.
I do like that answer - its pretty direct and even has the additional definition of what we currently have. Its a bit deadpan if not straight to the point.

Although its a bit presumptuous - I mean after all - I was the one who sent the flowers - and I shouldn't enforce her to do anything at all - even thank me for it - or get a coffee meet with her - based on just doing a nice act.

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IF you stay away from her completely, you will soon find out if she is interested. Mind you, if she has so many men after her, its hard to know why she would contact a stranger in the first place.
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I do like that answer - its pretty direct and even has the additional definition of what we currently have. Its a bit deadpan if not straight to the point.

Although its a bit presumptuous - I mean after all - I was the one who sent the flowers - and I shouldn't enforce her to do anything at all - even thank me for it - or get a coffee meet with her - based on just doing a nice act.
I think you're going to have to be more direct and just ask if she wants to meet in person. The longer you wait and over analyze this the higher probability she'll say no.

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IF you stay away from her completely, you will soon find out if she is interested. Mind you, if she has so many men after her, its hard to know why she would contact a stranger in the first place.
Well - I am giving her space. I am sure many guys are circling - in fact - at least 2 different people tried to take credit for me sending her the flowers (each bouquet). So I know there are guys out there trying to take credit for other men's gifts - which is pretty weak, but there you go.

I am not a stranger - but at the same time - I am now assessing the friendship value I hold with her. We have been chatting as just mates - now and then for about a year - and we have spoken about personal details like family, feelings, even her fears about having children, interests as such. I feel this girl is interesting - and has an intelligent and complex personality. I'm not a stranger, social network friend or associate - perhaps. But I know she was very grateful for those flowers as a gift.
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I think you're going to have to be more direct and just ask if she wants to meet in person. The longer you wait and over analyze this the higher probability she'll say no.
This is also possible - She picked up flowers last Tuesday - and we spoke briefly the Saturday just gone. I do think she has maybe taken a small London holiday - and is not at work - so she could have been telling me the truth about her availability this week.
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This is also possible - She picked up flowers last Tuesday - and we spoke briefly the Saturday just gone. I do think she has maybe taken a small London holiday - and is not at work - so she could have been telling me the truth about her availability this week.
Could be, but she knows that you're interested and hasn't responded. I think that she might be waiting for a more direct invitation to do something together. She did say that your invitation for pancakes was "nice". Maybe ask her to go out to dinner next?

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Could be, but she knows that you're interested and hasn't responded. I think that she might be waiting for a more direct invitation to do something together. She did say that your invitation for pancakes was "nice". Maybe ask her to go out to dinner next?
Yeah I am wondering -- see - do you guys think a dinner is more like a 2nd date thing? I thought about this - like what if she has an eating disorder, diet, or not comfortable eating food in front of a person for the first time etc.. One friend suggested something like taking her to a cocktail bar.


I think whats been said in this thread is all relevant/interesting and conflicting points.
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I would honestly just leave it unless she comes back to you. You have already asked her out more than once for a coffee and once for a meal, if she was interested she would have said yes. How may refusals do you need before you get the message?

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Yeah I am wondering -- see - do you guys think a dinner is more like a 2nd date thing? I thought about this - like what if she has an eating disorder, diet, or not comfortable eating food in front of a person for the first time etc.. One friend suggested something like taking her to a cocktail bar.


I think whats been said in this thread is all relevant/interesting and conflicting points.
I think going out to dinner shows interest much more so than just going out for drinks. If you want to make a better impression, take her out to dinner.

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A good way to test online relationships, to check if the person is real, is to ask them to take a selfie with a piece of paper with your name on it.

Also if you can't meet in person, there's always Skype and FaceTime.

You've asked her out already and she declined giving all excuses, yet you've been talking for a year and she initiated first contact. Something is amiss here or maybe you just fill an emotional need that she requires but that's all she really wants.

Bottom line, if she's not meeting you, she's either not interested or she's a catfish.

Did you send flowers to her place of employment or to a public place?

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I would honestly just leave it unless she comes back to you. You have already asked her out more than once for a coffee and once for a meal, if she was interested she would have said yes. How may refusals do you need before you get the message?
I've actually really only asked her out once - specifically post-flowers.
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I would honestly just leave it unless she comes back to you. You have already asked her out more than once for a coffee and once for a meal, if she was interested she would have said yes. How may refusals do you need before you get the message?
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A good way to test online relationships, to check if the person is real, is to ask them to take a selfie with a piece of paper with your name on it.

Also if you can't meet in person, there's always Skype and FaceTime.

You've asked her out already and she declined giving all excuses, yet you've been talking for a year and she initiated first contact. Something is amiss here or maybe you just fill an emotional need that she requires but that's all she really wants.

Bottom line, if she's not meeting you, she's either not interested or she's a catfish.

Did you send flowers to her place of employment or to a public place?

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- She is a real person - I've connected via linkedin/facebook - and also seen other networks she has Instagram/twitter - there is a connection with real world events. Like sending flowers to her office - and then her taking video/photos of them. I know she is a real person - she also knows one of my friends that I have worked with. I've not spoken to him about it though - as I am pretty pretty sure she exists.

Sent the flowers to her work place - she really liked them.

" if she's not meeting you, she's either not interested"
^ possible.
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I think going out to dinner shows interest much more so than just going out for drinks. If you want to make a better impression, take her out to dinner.
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