I so agree with this,what girl contacts a strange man she knows nothing about and strings him along for a year? For all she knew you could have been married or in a relationship.It was inappropriate.
If she wasn't interested she should have told you immediately she knew you were wanting more.
Just because a woman seems attractive doesn't men they are nice or genuine. It always amazes me how some men will let themselves get caught up with a woman just because she is pretty(and we don't even know she is using her own photos)and ignores the many red flags.
You have your facts wrong.
"what girl contacts a strange man"
^ I work in the same industry - and her very very initial contact with me was business orientated - as I had actually been on her network list far earlier like 2012 - but never talked until that point. I felt though she was very personable and interesting and added her to my facebook later that same day.
"strings him along for a year?"
^ she didn't. We have been talking for about a year since that moment I just mentioned. She never led me on - and there was never any direct flirting. If anyone that started flirting it was totally me - where I would compliment her on a dress she had worn or her hair. She would say thank you, and that was that.
"For all she knew you could have been married or in a relationship. It was inappropriate."
^ ok - so as I mentioned she didn't lead me on, ever - we did start to discuss relationships and I told her I was divorced. So as far as we each knew about each other - we were single. I thought she may have seen a guy around Aug-Sep - but it had fizzled out. So I had assumed she was single. But like I said neither of us made any romantic gestures - until I did 1/2 a month ago - by sending her flowers to her work place. She had told me she had started working at this place - and there anxiety about finding a job in early-mid January.
"If she wasn't interested she should have told you immediately she knew you were wanting more."
^ yes - I agree to this. Maybe it was a bit embarrassing for her - to be fair - I had sent the flowers - and then the only time I tried to invoke any kind of date setup was like last Friday -- 24th Feb - so this is where this forum thread began.
"Just because a woman seems attractive doesn't mean they are nice or genuine."
^ I've always thought she was pretty - but like many many pretty women out there and ones I network with - I didn't have the kind of conversations like I had with her. Conversations like - you do design, I need a friend designer - perhaps you can help me with this project - we can help each other in our defined careers. Then we started to find out we liked similar things - but I mean some very specific, niche interests and ideas we each had shared -- in relation to the projects I am doing as hobby. So here we have a very attractive women who has ALWAYS been polite, friendly and interesting. We revealed to each other our fears, desires, passions - and education and experience.
"It always amazes me how some men will let themselves get caught up with a woman just because she is pretty(and we don't even know she is using her own photos)and ignores the many red flags."
^ listen - firstly she USES her own photos and videos - I am sure of it -- its a cross reference from several social networks - she is friends on facebook with someone I've worked with - so I can ask him and confirm of her existence and looks. What red flags were ignored - I didn't even secure a starbucks coffee meet with this girl to go over some design work - let alone take her to a steak house or what. I wanted to meet her in person to try and pick up on any and all red flags. I am an educated and cautious guy. I am young, muscular - full set of hair - considered handsome - I got my own business and money cash flow - and I am healthy - so I do what I can not to be duped.