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First date set. Second guessimg myself a bit

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#1 ·
So, I was messaging this woman on the dating site and I asked for her cell so we can set a time to meet. She gave it and I called the next day after work. I was originally going to set it for during the week, but I picked Friday as she had something for work on Wednesday. I guess I screwed myself for another date on Saturday; should it work out. No? We spoke for about and hour and everything seemed to gel nicely. No pauses consistent talking and laughing. She received a call for work and had to go. She offered to talk tomorrow to setup a date, but I just decided it's best to set it up to night for Friday. I prob. should had picked Thursday. I didn't want to just talk another day before meeting. I could risk entering in the friendzone if we talk so much prior to meeting. Yes, this had happened before to me. Confused if my actions were on par.
 
#111 ·
I'm amazed how people over the last jillion years have managed to DATE, COURT and MARRY successfully without the 'benefit' cell phones, computers, Facebook, video chatting, dating sites, background checks, Instagram, texting, and all this other crap today's fools seem to think is "mandatory" in order to date. Idiots.

This stuff has only been available to the average person since the mid-90's - what did we pathetic human beings all DO before that? Oh .. that's right. We usually met someone randomly in person at college or the library or standing in line at a store cash registers or ice cream place, or at the mall or a supermarket, maybe a night out at the bar with your girlfriends, etc. etc., We'd gave our phone number to a guy if they asked and we were interested, waited for them to call, then began dating them if it did lead to that. Golly, and for the most part, the majority of us all managed to LIVE to tell the tale without getting killed, maimed, kidnapped or assaulted.

Gee whiz- imagine THAT?

These fools thinking you should provide all your personal information to them BEFORE they even meet you face to face for a lousy cup of coffee because they have to do a background check and read your Facebook and Instagram accounts and see your property tax records, see all your family ties, your career history on LinkedIn and learn your damned blood type really make themselves look a bunch of paranoid idiots.
 
#112 ·
I agree. But with that said OLD dating has made things easier, and that's good. However, I actually don't find her request all that weird. The Internet also makes things significantly easier for bad people to do bad things. Perhaps she was stalked online. Maybe someone find out way too much information? And yes, before online dating people absolutely got raped, hurt and harassed. Perhaps she's a victim of one of those things too.

I'd probably pass onto the next one as well, but if I had a daughter doing this I'd also advise her that before any blind date to provide the guys name, the exact location you'd be and a time you'd be home to a close friend. You can't be too safe.
 
#113 ·
For each party....especially the female, it is wise to share the location of the meet n greet, time to meet, make / model of car, what will s/he be wearing. And tell a family member and a close friend. Have an escape call if the date is going into the crapper. "Hey.... can you stop by, something's wrong." Also.... have a friend, preferably a guy, sit in the parking lot, arrive before either do and leave after each depart. No big deal if it's just a 30 minute meet.

Too many people watch too many of these crime shows and think every third person they pass is a serial killer. I tell female friends.... red flag if he will not give you his #, will not give you his FB account name (last name solved right here), or wants to first meet after 10pm. I would give a guy same advice.
 
#114 ·
Any dates lined up with girl you've dated a few times?
 
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