Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Where I lay my head
Re: Help with broken marriage
How did her 1st divorce unfold? Any similarities to how this one is going? How did your 1st divorce
go? Was it amicable or were there bitterness? Do you think the two of you may be caught in a cycle
of "disposable marriages?" This ain't fun no more, let's D and marry someone else.
Do you both work? Who does the household chores? Who does the outside upkeep
(mowing, trimming, planting flowers)? Do you and her get out WITHOUT the kids at least
once a week or take a mini weekend trip maybe once every 4-6 weeks?
Somewhere along the line she decided you are not meeting one or more of her needs.
Somewhere along the line you decided she is not meeting one or more of your needs.
You don't know this unless you communicate. This is critical. Who so?
Exactly what killed my 15 year M...... and it was BOTH our faults. I was just as guilty as she was.
If you can't sit down and talk without "shutting down," you need a MC, an experienced MC.
I might add, a MC that is pro-marriage. Some MCs are actually pro-divorce.... yeah, only in America!
A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past