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post #31 of 36 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 11:50 AM Thread Starter
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Hard to talk to someone who refuses to make time and talk to you


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post #32 of 36 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 12:26 PM
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It is even harder to talk to somebody when they won't shift out of victim mode long enough to listen to sound advice when it is given.

Every post you make which demonstrates a lack of patience, an unwillingness to listen, and lashes out at what are very good posters reduces your credibility.

Perhaps there are sound reasons for your wife to shut you out.

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post #33 of 36 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 01:23 PM
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You need to take a breath and calm down. It's obvious you have anger issues and I could understand why she doesn't feel comfortable opening up to you.

You say she doesn't take responsibility, do you? What would she say the issues are if she were on here.

Sleep with your freakin wife. Get over the fact that she is mad at you and won't look at you. Your place is in bed next to her whether she is mad or not.


Here are my suggestions even though you probably won't take them: bite your tongue. Just be there with her. Sleep her with everyday. Don't force her to talk. Tensions are obviously too high right now that they won't end up well. Don't show that your mad. She doesn't trust you and she doesn't feel safe with you probably because you get angry and frustrated too easily and you leave her. Do that for a while, let her soften up. I am not saying be passive aggressive, I'm not saying give her the silent treatment. I'm just saying, be normal, non talkative, nice. If she wants to talk, she will come to you. Don't force a conversation on her. Her her come to you, while you continue to be nice, and sleep with her every night. Let her behavior roll of your shoulders. Don't get frustrated. She might try to get a rise out of you, don't let it.
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post #34 of 36 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 01:34 PM
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So here is your post from 2014...

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I'm not sure the wife will like what I have to say if she concentrates on the sultry details of the affair instead of what led a truly faithful and honest man until this point to bite. I do not consider either of us innocent nor excuse my choice to put the cart before the horse...


So you cheated on your ex-wife. from reading your previous posts... it sounds like you are saying your current wife is neglecting you just like your ex wife did. I guess you realized the grass isn't greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it.
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Please tell me you didn't marry the "OW."
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post #36 of 36 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 02:15 PM
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Let me summarize: So you had a child with a women, and it didn't work out. You got a vasectomy. You got married to another women who also didn't want kids. She neglected you. You cheated on her with another women who was divorced with kids. You decide you are dying to have kids. Your wife wasn't. You get divorced. Within 3 years of your divorce you are remarried (almost 2 years in) had a child with your new wife who had kids from a previous marriage where she was cheated on. And are having the same problems as your first marriage, being neglected and treated poorly... wow.


So now you have 2 kids with 2 different women, and step kids. A second wife who has kids with another man, who was cheated on and probably has trust issues, but you cheated on your first wife with her... and YOU call your ex wife mentally unstable because she didn't want to have kids with you. You had a vasectomy, you reversed your vasectomy, and this was all done and your still in your 30s.

Do you know how insane that is? You need to relax. Take it slow. Stop getting so angry. Make this marriage work.

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