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post #16 of 24 (permalink) Old 03-02-2017, 02:15 PM
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Re: Cheating Girlfriend but I pushed her...

I am child free by choice. When i was dating at age 42 lots of guys had children. Cool, no problem, i adore kids. The biggest turn off for me? When they would offer to forsake their time with their kids to go out with me. It never got that far. SUCH a turn off!!! I figure if they can't be a good father, they can't be a good companion.

You need to find a way to move on without her. She is a hot mess with lots of issues.

I'm telling you, don't do it. You'll be aboard The Crazy Train and the ride will be a nightmare. For you AND your child.

Children come first. There are plenty of women who understand this. She's not one of them.

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Re: Cheating Girlfriend but I pushed her...

What would I advise you to do, @Halflife?

This:-

http://mygeneralblog1.blogspot.co.uk
http://mygeneralblog1.blogspot.co.uk...-cheaters.html (Be afraid UK cheaters! CheaterVille has come to the UK!
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I think it's interesting you refer to this woman as a "girl". Whatever you want to call her, she sounds completely toxic. Why are you even contemplating this?
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It's not clear to me what you mean by being clingy with your daughter or being the best father you can be, but spending time with your kids is always good. What was her issue with this? Was she unwelcome when you had your daughter? How old is your daughter?

MY DAUGHTER IS 5. I JUST SHOWED HER LOVE, PLENTY OF HUGS AND ATTENTION BUT WAS CONSCIOUS TO SHARE MY AFFECTION AND TIME WITH HER GIRLS AND THE EX WHILST ALL TOGETHER. SHE WAS GREAT WITH MY DAUGHTER BUT ALWAYS FELT A DIVIDE, JEALOUSY AND ILL FEELING,

And if you're planning a future you've got to incorporate your gf and daughter into a family unit. How's it going to work if you ignore your wife every weekend you have your daughter?

WHEN OUR WEEKENDS MATCHED SHE ABSOLUTELY INSISTED THAT AS SOON AS I GOT MY DAUGHTER THAT WE SPEND ALL OUR TIME TOGETHER. (IN HER WORDS A FAMILY LIFE) VERY OCCASIONALLY I WOULD WANT AN HOUR TO MYSELF WITH HER HAVING NOT SEEN HER FOR TWO WEEKS AND DIDNT SEE THIS AS BEING UNREASONABLE?! ALWAYS WANTED TO TRY AND MAKE TIME SO THAT MY DAUGHTER COULD SEE HER GRANDMA AND COUSINS ETC BUT HER HEAD FELL OFF ALL THE TIME WANTING THE FAMILY UNITY SHE CRAVED.

Had they even met? YES AND SHE WAS GOOD WITH HER. JUST WANTED US ALL TOGETHER ALL THE TIME & FELT LIKE I WAS WALKING ON EGG SHELLS TRYING TO JUSTIFY A BIT OF DADDY/DAUGHTER TIME OUTSIDE OF THAT.


Well it is a positive that she's good with your daughter and wants to spend family time, but being upset with you wanting a little one on one time is problematic.

Something else has to be going on. I was going to suggest that she was jealous of your daughter but based on on her wanting family time with your daughter i don't think that's the case.

Seems to me that for whatever reason she feels excluded. That may or may not be reasonable.

When you take your daughter to see her grandmother or cousins is your gf not welcome?

What is your relationship with your daughter's mother like?

I'm trying to get a feel for how your gf fits in with your daughter and family. Seems like she's pushing to build a family unit, and one possible reason could be that she feels excluded from the rest of your family.

Do you think this could be the case?
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Re: Cheating Girlfriend but I pushed her...

Three weeks in & cut all ties with this woman! I never knew the value of forum's & find it really therapeutic reading over all your advice after printing out and making reference to every day. Still hurts like crazy but I understand the pain would be worse in years to come, much love everyone x
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Re: Cheating Girlfriend but I pushed her...

Your emotions are in turmoil which is understandable with the divorce and fallout.

She interacted with you at a point of vulnerability.

Do not have anything to do with this woman ever again.

She is a hyena.

There are human woman that are available. Trust me.
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Whoops. See it is resolved.

Good move.
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Re: Cheating Girlfriend but I pushed her...

It's incredible that after all that stuff you wrote about her- being with all those guys, physically attacking you, resenting your relationship with your daughter, giving you details about what she did with all those guys, that you would even remotely consider going back with her. Then again I bet the sex was great and given her wild streak and her bisexuality you could have had a threesome as well, and um.. I forgot where I was going with this post but anyway good luck. If you weaken and go back with her please post an update and whether or not she brought a friend.
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Re: Cheating Girlfriend but I pushed her...

Like no sir. She is doing this to you to punish you, and to lure you in. Your kid comes first and this trainwreck of an ex-girlfriend who shows you that she can be a **** for revenge purposes? What?????

Find someone nice and NORMAL. And no you sure as hell did not push her. How? By being a dad to your kid? By showing parental responsibility?
Maybe Dr. Laura is right, and people who are divorced should not date until the kid is grown.
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