I hope you are correct.
This comes across to me as a risky marriage.
He is, at minimum, psychologically "wounded?' or, at minimum, "confused" about his sexuality. Not so. OP says he presents himself as would a gay male.
I agree, it is her life, her choice and her risk to take this man into her life.
I didn't say he says he's gay. He does not. He's identified as bisexual. He is not mentally wounded PR damaged. He's a great guy I'm proud to say is my fiance.
If he had an affair with a married man, how could he have been a virgin before you two had sex? That makes no sense at all.
Also, the bolded/underlined part makes no sense at all. Could you please correct that or explain it.
To me frottage isn't exactly sex. Nor is oral sex. Etc.... One can have all sorts of sex without actually having intercourse.
I mistyped I meant I don't care his orientation includes attraction toward someone like me. That's all that matter.
Our families? Is that a mistake? Because from what you wrote, it sounds like his exwife & brother outed him to your family and his family. Please clarify.
Also, just to clarify for you. It is normal to out a cheating spouse to family and friends. Anyone who cheats can pretty much expect that to happen. It's also normal to out the affair partner to everyone.
I don't blame his exwife for doing that. Both the man who cheated and the person he had an affair with deserve to have their cheating outed.
The only issue in the case of your fiancé is that he was an underage person taken advantage of by an adult male. How old was the man he had an affair with?
My fiance never had an exwife his exbf's wife outed my fiance to friends and it got back to both our families. His mother actually thought he was gay and she accepts him and so it was probably less of an issue for his family and friends. Mine are much less forgiving and more close minded individuals.
This was like almost 3 years ago. I do find that a vengeful act IMO.
Not really true. Read the stats on gay sexual activity.
This is not one of those issues that I am overly concerned with....just as it relates to the spread of AIDS. Such a tragic disease.
People can live life any way that suits them. As long as it is legal.
My fiance has only been with 2 people myself and the other guy so I don't think this really applies just because someone is bisexual doesn't mean they have diseases.
OP. I don't think you need to tell your family - or specifically hide it from them. Your and your husband's sexual interests are your own private business. There is no more need to tell them that he is also attracted to men than to tell them that one of you likes being spanked.
The only point of concern is your comment that he was *more* interested in men than in women. Are you sure that won't be a problem?
Otherwise its all good, I wish you a long and happy marriage.
Thanks. Yeah he finds more men attractive than women buy that's more a ratio type thing I'm one of those women he's attracted basically.