Well loss of virginity is vaginal/penile sex for hetero sex and anal sex for homosexual sex IMO. Especially the first. On technical terms.
Well it wasn't mean to be IMO. If someone cheats on someone they're clearly not the ideal partner for that person they're cheating on. Plus he was actually treated badly by his ex. So I'd say he was wrong to everyone involved as it was his responsibility to be faithful not his 16 year old boyfriend's responsibility to keep him faithful. If it wasn't with him he'd probably had done it with someone else.
I'm pretty sure that's not why the affair took place.
Pretty sure he has less than your man or most men generally. So I'd say his risk has always been low and is why we've both been std free all our lives.
Oral sex is calls "oral sex" because it is SEX. If it's penis in mouth, it's a form of intercourse. More importantly, STDs can be contracted via oral sex.
Yes, I get it, your fiancé was an affair partner to a married man. Your fiancé helped to destroy a marriage and the family life of some children. I get that.
The affair is far more vengeful than the ex outing them.
You are right that being bi-sexual does not mean that someone has an STD. However, the more sexual partners a person has had, the more likely that they have at least one STD. When a person has sex with someone, they are also exposed to any STDs passed on by all that person's previous sexual partners. A person can have sex once and get an STD.
I would be interesting to talk to you in about 5-10 years.
I cant wait in 5-10 years this will have to be behind us all.
That seems fine to me. I was worried that he generally preferred men and might be "settling" for other reasons. That can end badly regardless of orientations. As long as he is very attracted to you, that is great.
I really don't know why some other posters seem concerned. It seems he's been open with you about his feelings and his actions and YOU are OK with that. That is what matters.
No he's biromantic and homoflexible technically. Which means hes romantically attracted to both genders and is attracted to men and women but much more often men. And obviously he wasn't trying to settle down as a junior in high school. He just prefers men over women which I actually like because we sometimes watch stuff beforehand and we have similar interests in some materials. Etc... He is certainly attracted to men but also he likes some women too.
Yeah to me it doesn't impede in our relationship. So its not a problem. It has nothing to with the quality of our relationship and companionship. It has nothing to do with our future together or our future marriage. And it has nothing detrimental to do with out sex life oflr monogamy etc....
Originally Posted by manfromlamancha View Post
This is an interesting topic s I have come across this many times. I am going to sound like a dinosaur but what I say is based on experience - I have seen real bisexual women make relationships work and I believe that their sexuality was pretty fluid. I have a great many gay friends from all walks of life and cultures. I have NEVER seen a truly bisexual man. A great many of the gay friends I have started out thinking they were bisexual and with "great" relationships with girlfriends in some cases. Not one survived. They all eventually came out as gay as time went on.
You are being given very clear indications that this is the case with your "fiancé" and you are both quite young and inexperienced in this matter. You would be well advised to pay heed to what I am saying and do your own research. I am not saying that he is deceiving you - he probably doesn't know yet. If you had a threesome you might find out that you become the onlooker as he engages in what is his true sexuality. He has already told you that he prefers men. His first was a man (albeit a married man) which is where he may have had the idea that he too might be "bisexual".
There are a small number of hedonistic men who will literally **** anything that moves and they don't count. I have not seen a bisexual man that can carry on a long term relationship with a woman. At best it would be a sham or a lie in the long run.
That is just my findings especially with me witnessing the heartbreaking case of one of my childhood friends who broke his wife's heart and this was not the only case.
Yeah this basically is the whole ignorant thought all women are bi and men are either straight or gay but not in between. I don't believe in that.
I have seen bisexual men who had monogamous relationships with women actually. But maybe because you're old all those gay people were just dealing with the lack of acceptance in their community. Your community that they needed to hide etc.... My fiance isn't in that type of environment. My family is just a little backwards. But most people aren't. Its much easier honestly to be gay than bisexual for men or women as they can be very misunderstood by a lot of people gay or straight. So saying someone is saying they are bi to be more acceptable is unrealistic because it tends to be less acceptable than being gay to many... There's a lot of stigma against as you have demonstrated.
Also added to that. I would love to do a threesome. I **** my fiance but it would be great to see another hot guy **** him. I have always had fantasies of sandwiches etc.... So no seeing that would just turn me on. Its like all the porn and wet dreams so to speak and fantasies co.ing to life. I'm actually the type that used to have two crushes and dream about them like having sex. Probably weird but that's just me. It wouldn't bother me to see him have sex with another man. But it would bother him he'd always been against a threesome because he thinks it would mess up the dynamics and the foundation of being monogamous. So we can't even do it like once. But yeah its not me holding him back. Its him. He knows I'm open to it and my opinion on it completely. So clearly if he were gay and had no interest in me he'd be ****ing around with guys any chance possible under the guise of threesomes. And secondarily how can someone who's gay like women seriously. Can you like women? If you only like guys? I know I can't. I couldn't marry a woman to supposedly hide. If you like men and only men you couldn't sustain a long term relationship with a woman. End of story. And you can't have a good sex life with a woman either because sex with a woman would be disgusting. That's how I think as a person who is only attracted to men and all.