There is no getting over it. There is acceptance or rejection. So far, they don't have proof, but gut feelings and observations. Sometimes, bringing the elephant in the room into the light is the best. They will have to make their decisions. Just be prepared. I assume not everyone will accept your realities.
They won't stop talking about him behind his back. I don't think. Less will, but not all will stop. Good luck. Sorry you have to do this during a time when you are pregnant and wanting to be happy and receive congratulations. That sucks. It's pretty much life, though. Isn't it?
They have evidence that's the whole problem. Supposedly he was on tape admitting that he was having an affair. And she distributed it. Which got back to my family.
Of course they may not but its at least better to be open about what really is the truth etc.... Whether they believe it or not..
He wants to come out to who?
You guys are so young, your worries seem to be more concerned with his "status" rather than about being concerned about him committing to being a father and a husband.
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To basically those who are conceded and inquire because of the situation.
Originally Posted by manfromlamancha View Post
OK this is getting too long winded so the easy answer to your title question is YES if it makes him happy.
By the way, why does he want to "come out" ? Is it to clarify to your parents (who in their ignorance like mine, think he is gay) that he is in fact not gay ? Or is it to educate them on the range or spectrum of bisexuality ? Or is it to advertise to other men that he is still interested in them too ? What ? As Ele and Maricha have said, as long as you know why does it matter who else knows?
He wants to come out because my family found out about his affair. No one cares if they understand bisexuality or not that's not the issue.
I just wanted to add that we are happy you are here. I am also impressed how well you have responded to everyone. I think you have handled yourself very well for a young person. Many posters that are new get mad and disappear, which surely is counterproductive, as they end up getting no help. So I really think it is great how you handled all the responses, even the ones that were on the harsh side. So bravo!
You came seeking opinions, and you got plenty. Hearing others weigh in on this is really a wonderful provision to help you work through your thoughts and concerns. This has given you a lot to think over. Consider staying with us, as you will always have questions in your relatonship. The longer we know you and your situation the more we can help. Also, you can help others in the future (That's why I am still here, to pay it forward, because I appreciate this forum so much.) If you feel comfortable with it, I would recommend having your fiancé read this. Open communication is a HUGE factor in any successful relationship.
Lastly - I want to say Congradulations on your pregnancy. Children are an amazing gift. I think you will both love being parents, and I genuinely wish you happiness and success.
Thanks yeah even the negative advice can be of much help honestly. It helps give idea etc and what not.
I don't know @MattMatt
. Almost nine years ago I married a bisexual woman. While she did have an affair with a woman early on, we are still together today.
We were only 21 when we got married.
Ho est communication and acceptance can overcome much.
Yeah majorly the foundation of pur relationship relies on trust and an open communication level.