I understand that most men do watch porn and as I said before, I wouldn't be upset with him occasionally watching porn on his own time as long as it's women he doesn't have the potential of meeting in real life if he feels the need to do that I can live with that.
The problem I had was that my husband was visiting the page and looking at photos of ONE women, every single day. A women that I have met in real life, and that he even was friends with on fb. This is someone from our hometown. That's where I have a problem. her pictures are of her modeling and mostly bikini photos but when my husband is clearly fantasing about this one women everyday that's where I have an issue.
Porn is total fantasy. Men have no expectation of meeting those women. Before my divorce, many times I used to think of it being my wife who was the woman in the porn, and me doing those things with her.
But this other woman whom he knows in real life, yeah that's a problem. One factor is she is a professional model marketing her brand, so she isn't putting herself out there as available. So I don't think there is any real possibility of him meeting with her for sex. But it is a psychological or emotional problem for him to be repeatedly viewing her photos. I think it amounts to some form of attachment which diverts his energies from the marriage, and that makes it unacceptable even though he won't ever actually have an affair with her.