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post #16 of 43 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 09:32 AM
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Re: Help me to understand someone else's idiosyncrasies........

Lots of possibilities.

She could have a disfigured eye that she wants to hide.

She could be very light sensitive due to some medical condition.

She could be hiding injuries to her eyes and head. They could be from a random accident or from abuse

She could be stoned.

She could enjoy looking mysterious

She could have broken her only pair of non-sunglasses and is waiting for new ones.

I'm completely ssssure sssshe is not a ssssshape-sssshifting reptilian from a Nazi bassssse in Antarctica. How sssssilly Itssss completely ridiculousssssss. Just humanssssss here.

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French language class. during the day. age of classmate maybe late 30s early 40s. She is dressed very casually as we all are.
some general observations:

1. look at her outfit she general wear (depending again on weather and time of the year)...are her arms covered? does she expose as little skin as possible...perhaps she is of a religion where expose of skin and eyes and head...but to afraid to wear the traditional outfit.

2. perhaps she is trying to not show a black eye....

3. As noted here hung over...not likely though

4. Is she an active participant in class discussion

5. is she suffering from exposure to the sun
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I just don't like people covering their faces unnecessarily.
I thought this comment and your title were ironically funny.
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I thought this comment and your title were ironically funny.
I don't find it ironic at all. I don't complain that people use nicknames for their accounts, nor do I complain that not enough people have photos of themselves up.

In class, I am my real self, real name and my face is not covered.

But maybe I missed something here, perhaps you can tell me why you find it ironic.
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I wear ball caps when I need more sun protection and/or the ease of not having to worry about what my hair looks like. Plenty of women wear ball caps indoors, day or night. That wouldn't even register as odd to me, honestly.

The sunglasses indoors is a little less common. As others have posited, though, there are a myriad of reasons why someone might. My SO routinely wears his sunglasses indoors if his usually sensitive light blue eyes are already tired and the overhead lighting or some source of glare is particularly bothersome. I once wore mine to class for several days while my eye healed from a busted blood vessel. Not only was my eye particularly sensitive, but the white being fully blood red was also attention-grabbing in a way that made me uncomfortable.

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I am taking an adult learning course. We're a class of 10. There's one woman who consistently wears a baseball cap and sunglasses throughout the class. As you can tell, I am not completely comfortable with that.

Perhaps some of you can enlighten me as to some legitimate reasons there is a need to wear sunglasses indoors. I don't think she is blind as she has no cane, no working dog and she doesn't move about in a tentative manner.
What does this say about YOU?
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But maybe I missed something here, perhaps you can tell me why you find it ironic.
Sure.
You are pointing out a particular issue of someone else and I see your comment as an idiosyncrasy. It is ironic to me because I didn't see it coming.


I'd argue we all have idiosyncrasies, many of which we don't know or acknowledge.
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What does this say about YOU?


I don't know, perhaps you can enlighten me.
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I don't know, perhaps you can enlighten me.
I don't know you. Do you know yourself. Is your post honest or is it a whim? You really have to ask more of yourself when it comes to finding answers that
cause you to pose a question. It reminds me of some who ask for answers to questions that Google can answer. Why not do it yourself?
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I don't know you. Do you know yourself. Is your post honest or is it a whim? You really have to ask more of yourself when it comes to finding answers that
cause you to pose a question. It reminds me of some who ask for answers to questions that Google can answer. Why not do it yourself?
And what!?!? And take away your opportunity to respond to me.....

This is a message board. IT is as much a legitimate source of information as random googling. If you don't like my question, don't respond to it.

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And what!?!? And take away your opportunity to respond to me.....

This is a message board. IT is as much a legitimate source of information as random googling. If you don't like my question, don't respond to it.
Fair enough. She wears a baseball cap and sunglasses because she thinks it makes her look cool. It bothers you because ???
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Thanks @Nuckingfuts; @225985; @uhtred; @lostinthought6; @Rowan for your constructive responses.

Covering one's face in Europe is a big discussion. In France (where I am currently not), laws have been passed that outlaws any kind of headdress that covers the face.

In the UK, discussion goes around how parents want to see the faces of their children's teachers; we want to see the faces of our doctors and nurses; Men have dressed up in these outfits and have bypassed legal checkpoints as result.

By the same token, you're not allowed to keep your motorcycle helmet on in a bank........

So yeah, I think the face is important. I may become friends /friendly with this woman, maybe not. But at least I didn't start off asking stupid invasive questions.

But I know, I know, some of you will say that I have already sent negative vibes and it will never happen..... so be it.
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Are you willing to share the topic of the class? Some context may help. For example, a self esteem class would make sense. A pottery class would be different.
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Are you willing to share the topic of the class? Some context may help. For example, a self esteem class would make sense. A pottery class would be different.
It's French language.
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I am taking an adult learning course. We're a class of 10. There's one woman who consistently wears a baseball cap and sunglasses throughout the class. As you can tell, I am not completely comfortable with that.

Perhaps some of you can enlighten me as to some legitimate reasons there is a need to wear sunglasses indoors. I don't think she is blind as she has no cane, no working dog and she doesn't move about in a tentative manner.
I am a chronic migraine sufferer. Lights and sounds bother me even when im not in the throes of a migraine. If lights are bright ill wear sunglasses.

Why does her attire bother you so much? Do you think it's unprofessional? Is this a work related course or a college class?
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