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I am a chronic migraine sufferer. Lights and sounds bother me even when im not in the throes of a migraine. If lights are bright ill wear sunglasses.

Why does her attire bother you so much? Do you think it's unprofessional? Is this a work related course or a college class?
thanks for another constructive possibility. I've already mentioned upthread why I find covering one's face unnecessarily is annoying.

FTR, I wear sunglasses outdoors when it's sunny summer and winter. And take them off when I get indoors.

I started this thread to remind myself of legitimate reasons why someone might wear glasses indoors.



and not risk making my classmate uncomfortable posing to her what she might think are invasive questions.

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Re: Help me to understand someone else's idiosyncrasies........

How much do you think is due to the combination of the baseball cap and glasses vs. if the person was just wearing sunglasses?

I can appreciate having to wear sunglasses if experiencing a migraine which I deal with frequently, but then again, I probably wouldn't be in class if I was having one. At work I usually end up having to turn of the lights in my office, close the blinds, and limit looking at the PC screen.
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Why don't you just ask her, instead of asking a bunch of strangers online?

"Hey, i was just curious, but why do you wear sunglasses inside?"

Then you wont have to wonder anymore.

Tada. That's the power of questions
I would probably not ask personally... but if I felt she was smiling, approachable somehow....I just might...

I mean we could guess till the cows come home.. but she may have a legitimate reason that we've never heard of... @225985 's post was very good for pointing a few of those out...


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Maybe she's a Kardashian!!! 😁



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yabbut, she's outdoors.

I was reading about how Hispanics are circling the wagons given the threat of deportation these days. One community group in Florida reported that a neighbourhood went straight inside when someone who looked like a gov't official -- wearing sunglasses drove up.

Sunglasses can drum up a lot symbolism.
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Maybe it is a barrier as she is not ready to let people in!

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It is obvious, she is wearing sunglasses so she can undress all the other students (and staff) with her eyes, all without being caught ...
I bet they're a pair of those x-ray glasses you could buy out of Field and Stream magazines back in the sixties. I wish I had a pair now so I could wear them to spin class!
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I am taking an adult learning course. We're a class of 10. There's one woman who consistently wears a baseball cap and sunglasses throughout the class. As you can tell, I am not completely comfortable with that.

Perhaps some of you can enlighten me as to some legitimate reasons there is a need to wear sunglasses indoors. I don't think she is blind as she has no cane, no working dog and she doesn't move about in a tentative manner.
I wear sunglasses indoors on occasion. Some of the occasions are:
- If I'm in a period of my life when I have taken on WAY too much, I want to reduce social interaction. If people can't see my eyes and make eye contact, I'm less likely to be drawn into a conversation. I love conversation, so they are always time-consumer.
- I'm having yet another steenking plugged sebacious gland in an eyelid and my eyes are scary red and puffy and I don't want to gross people out
- I had a very long night (I'm in the rock and roll business, so it happens - without booze) and my eyes just don't want to deal with the light.

I never wear baseball caps, so can't speak to that.

But - two of the lady rockers I know wear hats indoors all the time - fuzzy knit caps or baseball hats...they claim they're cold most of the time and keeping their heads warm helps a lot.


Now, here's the question I'd be asking if I were you:

"How did it become my business how someone else, with whom I don't have a relationship, chooses to dress?"

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Re: Help me to understand someone else's idiosyncrasies........

How about her regular glasses are broken so she is wearing her prescription sunglasses?
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I wear sunglasses indoors on occasion. Some of the occasions are:
- If I'm in a period of my life when I have taken on WAY too much, I want to reduce social interaction. If people can't see my eyes and make eye contact, I'm less likely to be drawn into a conversation. I love conversation, so they are always time-consumer.
- I'm having yet another steenking plugged sebacious gland in an eyelid and my eyes are scary red and puffy and I don't want to gross people out
- I had a very long night (I'm in the rock and roll business, so it happens - without booze) and my eyes just don't want to deal with the light.

I never wear baseball caps, so can't speak to that.

But - two of the lady rockers I know wear hats indoors all the time - fuzzy knit caps or baseball hats...they claim they're cold most of the time and keeping their heads warm helps a lot.


Now, here's the question I'd be asking if I were you:

"How did it become my business how someone else, with whom I don't have a relationship, chooses to dress?"
I am sure that if your child wanted to be friends with someone who refused to take his her sunglasses off in your home/ church / school / whatever, you would be asking --yourself at least -- the same question.

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I am a chronic migraine sufferer. Lights and sounds bother me even when im not in the throes of a migraine. If lights are bright ill wear sunglasses.

Why does her attire bother you so much? Do you think it's unprofessional? Is this a work related course or a college class?

^This^

I suffer from chronic migraines too, harsh or bright lights will often trigger one. I always have a large pair of sunglasses in my bag along with rescue meds. If wearing sunglasses indoors means I'll avoid a migraine I'll do it. If I don't my projectile vomiting would probably "bother" you more than my sunglasses.
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Thanks @Nuckingfuts; @225985; @uhtred; @lostinthought6; @Rowan for your constructive responses.

Covering one's face in Europe is a big discussion. In France (where I am currently not), laws have been passed that outlaws any kind of headdress that covers the face.

In the UK, discussion goes around how parents want to see the faces of their children's teachers; we want to see the faces of our doctors and nurses; Men have dressed up in these outfits and have bypassed legal checkpoints as result.
Interesting so, this is an innate fear based feeling? I ask because you have pointed out other country laws, while saying that isn't where you are currently. Now I understand why you didn't see it as irony.

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By the same token, you're not allowed to keep your motorcycle helmet on in a bank..
Yes, but you can wear a baseball cap and sunglasses in a bank, where I live at any rate. You will trigger a higher response from security, but it is allowable. Still, a classroom, checkpoint or a bank are completely different scenarios.
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I am sure that if your child wanted to be friends with someone who refused to take his her sunglasses off in your home/ church / school / whatever, you would be asking --yourself at least -- the same question.
Doubt it. I would watch the situation. I don't like it when the government does it, and I won't do it..that is, profiling a person based on what they look like or what they choose to wear...it's a not-so-subtle form of racism, not so much against someone's ethnicity but against our perceptions of what particular social group their behavior suggests they're a part of.

I don't look for "likelihood" of problems...I wait until clear signs. If the child is not allowed to make mistakes, they'll never learn. Of course, it depends on age, whether the child's been, so far, more or less responsible than average for his/her age, etc.

If in church, then I already know the parents. If in school, I'll get to know the parents. You should know the parents of your children's friends, IMO.

Of course, you used the word "refused"...and if you meant it, as in "refused when asked by an adult"...well that's a behavior problem, and has nothing to do with the sunglasses.

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