Re: Compersion. Best describes my marriage
While it is not a lifestyle that I am active in now or in the past, it is one that I can understand.
If there is one thing that I have come to understand, it is the fact that monogamy is contradictory to natures design. We have physical characteristics that are a result of evolutionary modifications that prove this and before anybody slams me for saying that do a little research on sperm competition and then tell me I'm wrong.
Marriage and monogamy were inventions of the church as a method of social control at a time when the average life expectancy was less than half of what it is now. I don't think it is fluke that as life span increases so do divorce rates, I don't believe from a nature standpoint we were meant to be pair bonded and monogamous for 60 or 70 years, it really isn't natural and it is the opposite of what is ingrained into our DNA.
I'm not saying everybody would throw monogamy out the window and start screwing your neighbors like a pack of rabbits, only that condemnation for people that chose to live a more liberal lifestyle is unfounded persecution.
For those of you that are strong enough to fight natures urges and follow your perception of the moral high ground, all the power to you, that is your choice as is the choice to not be monogamous. The only issue I ever have with it is when somebody puts a person into a non monogamous relationship without first giving them the choice to be in that relationship or not. That is where the real ethical short coming is at, that is the moral failure, not consenting adults being engaged in adult activities.
Our lives are a novel and we, the authors. if you don't like the story line, only you have the power to change it.