People really need to get a grip. Shaming and fear mongering isn't helpful. Turns out, it's entirely possible to divorce amicably, date responsibly, and find a new partner who is actually compatible on all levels, physical included.
So what if he's a great guy? He's not the right great guy for OP or she wouldn't be here.
, the truth is you made a mistake. You married a man you weren't chemically compatible with in hopes that romantic love would grow over time. It hasn't and now you've let this go on so long you're actively repulsed by him. You can't manufacture chemical, physical, sexual compatibility. Attraction is either there or it's not. So, what now?
* You could stay married and be more or less best friends and roommates.
*You could stay married and resume sex when he asks for it. Just close your eyes and think of England.
*You could ask for an open marriage so the family stays intact and you and your husband are both free to have your physical and emotional needs met outside of the marriage.
*You could amicably divorce and free both of you to find truly compatible partners.
Personally, I think staying married is the worst choice. Staying married deprives you both permanently. I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with someone I don't physically want and I wouldn't want to be married to someone who doesn't physically want me.