Re: Relationship Access To Texts/Social Media/Cell Phone
I have some reserves when it comes to this.
Like some posters here said, there comes a time when it's okay to share such private details. I'm not referring to the dating period(too soon for that), but when the relationship becomes exclusive and time goes on, I wouldn't mind sharing passwords. Although, I'd call it a lack of respect if he went on to my account without my permission [assuming I have already given him the passwords].
Even if I've got nothing to hide and he's free to lurk onto my accounts for as long as he wants, it's a bit of discomfort knowing that he wants to go through my private messages on FB with my girlfriends/family/relatives. We make inside jokes, share our thoughts, silly stuff or even a confidential talk that my friends don't want others to know. At the end of the day that's none of his business, right? So why give more access than needed?
If he goes around everything that's "mine", it's like like a breach of privacy, more related to lack of respect rather than out of fear of hiding something from him. Just as much as I'm for total openness, on the other hand there's gotta be a reason why he wants to lurk onto my stuff. If there's something specific he wants to see, I can happily show it to him with no reluctance.
It's the same as reading work emails. They are supposed to be confidential, right? Why should he have access to my work email?
That's over the top for me.
So I'd say, it depends.
Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.