Been a while since I saw this topic on TAM, so thought it would be good to start a fresh thread.
Do you think that as soon as you enter into a relationship with someone else, this entitles you to free access of all their social media accounts (i.e. cell phone, texts, Facebook, email, password sharing, etc...)? This topic came up today on a radio station I was listening to, and there seemed to be mixed responses. The callers who felt that they are entitled to free access took the viewpoint that you should have no problems giving free access if you have nothing to hide. Others stated that unless this was due to a special circumstance, then no, you shouldn't have free access. I recall a while back a poster here commented that they viewed social media access like maintenance on a car. In the same way you periodically do maintenance on a car to make sure all is in good working order, you should periodically go through each person's accounts for relationship maintenance.
I prefer to take the stance that unless there is a specific reason (i.e. some form of infidelity) you aren't entitled to free access. Now that being said, I don't hide any passwords from my W (i.e. she can just hop on my computer at any time and access my accounts). I would be annoyed if she decided to go through my accounts without asking me first (I have nothing to hide aside from an extensive midget porn collection
). If she asked me first and explained exactly why she needed to access, I would be happy to oblige.
I actually have one friend where his W would insist she needs to use his phone to look something up on the internet, when hers is right next to her... She would grill him about why he had a password on his phone and his answer about it due to accessing his work email wasn't good enough. He used the fingerprint option, turns out when he was asleep she would take his thumb to access the phone lol.
So, what is your stance TAMers???
EDIT - assuming you believe you should have access, is there a certain point in a relationship where the access should begin (i.e. should it be while dating, when you decide to go exclusive, only when you get married, etc...)?