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post #16 of 23 (permalink) Old 03-08-2017, 11:22 AM
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Thanks everyone for your opinions and advices, I really love her but in this moment I'm trying to analyse this with my mind instead of my heart and it hurts because I know what I should do but my heart is not letting me because I really care for her and this is making me very sad and worried, I still hope her ex doesn't go live with her and im thinking in talking about it with her before its too late, any sujestions of what I should say..? Once again thank you.
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My friend you are one misguided and naive young man. I'm sorry but you are. What you are feeling for her is not love... at least not love in the true, self-sacrificing and nurturing sense. What you are feeling is called "limerance", and it is 95% all in your head.

You cannot fully know you really love someone unless you have met them in person and spent a good amount of time with them. I am sure you care deeply about her, and in an emotional way you have been in a relationship....of sorts. But she has been using your for emotional support and ego feeding, and you have done the same. What you have is a quasi-parasitic relationship, and it is not real nor is it healthy. Please end this with her. You are setting yourself up for major heartbreak if you keep going on with her, and you seem like a decent guy. I wouldn't want to see that happen to you.

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Just tell her no sausage parties.
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Didn't read your whole original post. Didn't need to. Dump her.

Even if I don't get likes for it, I'm still going to say it.
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I have never met her in person yet she lives in another different country from mine, we skype, use facebook and text eachother a lot and before all this happened we were planning visit eachother but now I dont know.. It would be hard to be with her in real life in future but I was still going to do it if everything kept going good as it was and I had hope, wich now its very blurry on my mind...
Sounds more like a fantasy than a relationship.
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Coming from a woman who was 25 years old at the time she married her husband, who happened to be 19 at that time, this is NOT a good match for you. On this one, I agree with the others saying to cut your losses and find someone local... or at least in the same country! Long distance is hard enough without adding in different countries, and her divorced status/now loving with her ex again. For your own sanity, please cut her loose.

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I have never met her in person yet she lives in another different country from mine, we skype, use facebook and text eachother a lot and before all this happened we were planning visit eachother but now I dont know.. It would be hard to be with her in real life in future but I was still going to do it if everything kept going good as it was and I had hope, wich now its very blurry on my mind...




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Move on.

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Honey you are NOT in love with this woman. YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HER. Until you meet someone in person you don't know them.

Block her and find a girl in your own area to date.
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