Re: Need your advice: How do you know if you are still in love with your spouse
Peace you hit the nail on the head communication...
Dr. Phil tells a story about a elderly couple he met at a some dinner, and they were celebrating their 50 years anniversary, and he casually asked them how did they make it 50 years together? the couple thought about it and she spoke for the both of them and said that there were times when she was in love or more in love than he was and other times when he was in love or more in love than she was....but at no time were they out of love together.
So consider this Peace, perhaps today you are less in love with him, you respect him and care about him but may not love him as you once did, but than something will happen that will spark something in you and remind you why you fell in love in the first place or you discover something new about him you like and understand that it may also happen the other way around when you find that you are so in love with him and he not so much. let's face it the world at times looks awesome when you look from the inside looking out, you feel trapped and stagnate but that is only a phase, a rut of sorts, because if generally speaking when your life is good for the most part, our mind tend to wander and we start re-examing who we are, what we want...and we start to question things....and we don't talk about it....on either side...this is when real relationships begin, not when you agree on everything but when you disagree on things...not as a challenge but as an opportunity to explore our differences, and understand our how each of us are changing as we get older....remember your not the same girl he married...nor is he the same boy.