[QUOTE=Jessica38;17504969]From the same article:
"Women don’t start with divorce. They start with complaints about a lack of communication, intimacy or fulfilling sex. They make requests to go to therapy or take a relationship workshop or communication course to get support. They ask for more quality time with their mates.
But many men miss the clues that their wife is unhappy and on the verge of calling it quits. A friend of ours, Machen, shared his experience,
I didn’t realize my marriage was in trouble until my wife said, ‘You are moving out – today!!’ In retrospect, I could see that she had tried to tell me many times that she was unhappy, but I hadn’t been listening." https://goodmenproject.com/featured-...bands-mkp-mjr/
All I'm saying is that the OP should look for proof before assuming (and reacting) as if his wife is having an affair if he wants to save his marriage.
There could be a very real reason why she's unhappy in the marriage and sees separation as the only way to get him to meet her halfway in repairing the marriage. I've seen this exact thing go down with friends in real life in the past year who were advised to separate from neglectful husbands who were unwilling to consider their needs or work to improve the marriage. Marriage requires care and no wife wants to live with a man who isn't showing that he cares for her.[/QUOTE
This is EXACLTY what I heard from my XWW.........the thing is...I obliged and went to marriage counseling. by the 3rd or 4th session, and my XWW not hearing what she wanted from the counselor, she accused me of bribing the counselor SHE chose and quit going.
then after the affair was made public, she begged me not to leave her. Funny how I was so horrible but afterwards wanted me back.
sorry but not buying this line of thinking from your post at all.