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post #1 of 63 (permalink) Old 03-09-2017, 08:15 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Wife says she need time alone.

My wife and I have been living together for 18 years and married for 14. She told me yesterday that she wants to live alone. She wants to move out and us "date" each other to see if it will help rekindle the spark in our relationship. I don't know how to take this. She says it will help our marriage, I say it will destroy it. HELP!!

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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

First find out who her boyfriend is.

Sorry, but this is usually the case when a spouse needs "space".
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

Has she ever told you she was uhappy?

How long ago?

What if any signs of trouble?

Is there ANY hint of another guy in the picture?
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

Could be a massive sh_t test to see if you care about the marriage.
Could be she wants you out of sight to test drive some other guy.
Best advice I can give is tell her "If you move out, we might as well get divorced right away & save time".
Hard to have heart to heart conversations when you are living in different locations.

You can go on dates, etc, while living in the same place.
Check phone records, drop by her work unannounced for a lunch date. Is she seeing someone else??

PS- I read this quote on this site a couple of weeks ago. "Don't love someone so much, that they can use your love as a noose against you". You may love your wife, but you CAN live without her. Don't cry, don't beg, be firm.
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

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My wife and I have been living together for 18 years and married for 14. She told me yesterday that she wants to live alone. She wants to move out and us "date" each other to see if it will help rekindle the spark in our relationship. I don't know how to take this. She says it will help our marriage, I say it will destroy it. HELP!!
What does her boyfriend think?

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

Yes...this sounds bad...real bad...18 years is a long time...then out of the blue she wants to move out...
Really has to be something else here (AP OM EA/PA etc)

Good luck I'm new here but there seems to be a lot of peeps for advise and support....
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

She's cheating. Sorry.
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

Check your phone bill if you want her boyfriends number.
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

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Has she ever told you she was uhappy?

How long ago?

What if any signs of trouble?

Is there ANY hint of another guy in the picture?
She told me recently that she was unhappy ie a few days ago.

I haven't noticed any recent signs of trouble, but I haven't been looking for them.

Not another man that I know of.
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She told me recently that she was unhappy ie a few days ago.

I haven't noticed any recent signs of trouble, but I haven't been looking for them.

Not another man that I know of.
Only because you haven't looked. Go online and check your phone bill.

This happens with extreme regularity here.

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Not another man that I know of.
Seek and ye shall find ...

I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.

You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

Oh and don't ask her. She'll tell you no of course.

You'll find that cheaters lie, hide and deny a lot.

Of course you'll be in the denial phase like most and want to belive until ........
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

Look sport separation is for her to have more time to spend with her boyfriend.

Sorry for what you are about to receive
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

When you get the boyfriends number and ask you'll get the famous lie "were just friends"!!!!
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Re: Wife says she need time alone.

Really the only chance you have is to beat her to the punch and file.
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