Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Re: am i wrong
I have a slightly different take on this. The answer to your question “am I wrong?” is YES, full stop. Why, you ask? Because you allowed this situation to continue.
You married him AFTER you knew about all this. What you should have done is throw them both out OR move out with your child and, call off the wedding.
Because you respected yourself so little, by not demanding better treatment and marrying him anyway, you now have a situation where your husband and the nanny/GF have no respect for you either. They both think they can do and say anything and, you won’t do anything about it.
Ask yourself honestly, why did you want to get married so badly that you would overlook this heinous behavior? Why do you want to be with a man who feels he needs to "teach you a lesson"? (sorry but that explanation of his doesn't pass the smell test) Please don’t say that you love him or that he loves you because his behavior is not loving and, your behavior is not indicative of someone who loves themselves.
You can remedy this situation, you just need to find the courage to see a lawyer, dump both of these scoundrels and protect your child.