am i wrong
Hi, first a warning - this is a little long.
So here is the situation. I moved in with my fiancť last year. We have a child together and because of our rotating weird schedules, we needed someone to watch her overnights and at weird hours. So he brought in a friend (female) to help out. At the interview I specifically asked how do you know my fiancť and she said they were friends. Ok well after living there a few months I find out that they actually used to sleep together. then I find text messages they were sending to each other saying stuff like meet me downstairs, I want to suck you ****, etc. while I was at work. So I confront them and tell him I want her out. He says the text messages were a fake, he told her to send them because he said I like to snoop in his phone so that would teach me a lesson. Then he said that they slept together a long time ago before we got together and that they didnít tell me because they knew I would be angry. Well now I am furious because they lied to me and I donít believe the text message story. But I forgive my fiancť and say we need to work on our relationship. However I want her (the nanny) out. so he was like well we canít afford to hire someone and we donít have any family around to help out, so after the wedding we can because then we wonít be spending money on the wedding. So I said ok.
Well it has been 5 months after the wedding and she is still in my house. Every time I bring up getting someone else itís we donít have the money. Also I donít speak to her at all. Since she watches my child I would text her about my child or leave notes but now nothing. I donít want to have any more communication with her, I just want her out of my house. Last month finally came to a head, I lost it. She wanted to talk because she said the tension was too much in the house. So I said fine we can talk like adults. I told her I donít like her and I never would. They lied to me and she still says she never messed with him. the conversation was going ok until she said that she raises my child more than I do and maybe if I actually cleaned and cooked (like she thinks she does) then he would actually want me and not mess with others. I snapped, I screamed at her and told her she has to leave. Then I told him but he still wouldnít back me. He says Iím being petty and childish because I donít communicate with her since she is watching our child. He then says if I want someone else to watch her I need to come up with a solution. So I spend all my time putting out ads, interviewing people and find someone who can watch her on our weird hours. Yes it costs money but I figured we can work something out. Well I tell him and he shuts it down saying we donít have that money, we need to concentrate on paying our debt and then we can hire someone. So Iím upset, Iím ready for her to be out of my house. So today he says he is tired of me because I went to work without telling her that my child is being picked up by mother today. I actually did put it on the calendar which is on the fridge for her, but because I didnít actually tell her he says Iím being petty and childish and not thinking of my daughter. Iím tired of this. I feel like I shouldnít be in this situation but then I told my friend and she was like you have to be an adult and think of your child. He says Iím being selfish and now I feel like Iím in the wrong. Please help.